You can help your spouse overcome his anger

Elizabeth Badejo


Anger is one of the most common emotions in human behaviour. It is the way you express your feelings towards others in any relationship or marriage. Anger is a common tool used by spouses to express dissatisfaction. It is also a natural emotion, a human response to safety, well-being and happiness. Everyone experiences anger in different ways, some more extreme and frequent than others. Though anger is one of the most common emotions known to the human race, few people are skilled at reacting to this feeling with complete effectiveness.

Anger is developed in marriage relationships than in any other relationships. When anger is not resolved or properly managed, it can lead to physical, mental and emotional abuse which is common in many marriages today.


Separate the man from his action

There are so many reasons why it is important for you to help your spouse overcome his anger. Firstly, your husband will identify his weakness and the need to make adjustment and secondly he will be glad to know that you will be walking side by side with him through the process and finally it fosters peace and harmony within the home.

Your support will also improve your relationship with your spouse in the area of communication especially if it has been challenging to get through to him in recent time. This is not the time to point out his mistakes but to love and accept him even though you may not be satisfied with some of his behaviours or responses. Separate the actions from the man and he will be willing to change and overcome his anger. His search for peace may begin sooner if he knows that you care about him and willing to walk through the steps of healing with him.



It’s a family

Family values are one of the strongest contributors to individual character in adulthood. When anger plays a dominant role in family traditions, it becomes a norm which follows a man into maturity, relationships and marriage. The effect of anger in families is usually visible in the way he relates to others, especially his spouse.

An insecure childhood is often the reason why your spouse would feel the need to stay in control. As a result, he often feels tensed, irritated, edgy, anxious, nervous and quick to overreact during discussions. Fortunately, your spouse can get help through your support and understanding and in extreme situation, through counselling and reconciliation.