Nigerian youths wasting away, says research

A study by General Electric has established that Nigeria’s young population can be put to better use.

The study, dubbed: Skills White Paper, is targeted at improving the capacity of Nigeria to harness the potential of its growing young population.

According to the White Paper, sub-Saharan Africa is estimated to be home to a quarter of people aged 24 and below by 2030, with Nigeria contributing the most significant number.

We’re not interested in 2019 Igbo presidency -Biafra

The Indigenous People of Biafra, IPOB ha said they are not interested in suggestions being flown by some Northern elders to the effect that Ndigbo would be allowed to clinch the presidential seat in 2019.
Speaking to newsmen on Wednesday,spokesman of the IPOB, Emma Powerful said they are not interested in Nigeria’s affairs any longer..

Arms deal: $322m from Abacha loot released on Dasuki’s request to fight Boko Haram – Okonjo-Iweala

Former minister of finance, Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, has revealed that $322m from the amount recovered from the family of former head of state, the late General Sani Abacha was released for the purchase of arms in war against Boko Haram.
The former minister in a statement issued by his media adviser, Paul Nwabuikwu, denied reports linking her to arms purchase fund, saying she was not a member of the Security Council.

Israeli PM's dog bites political visitors

Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu's recently adopted dog Kaiya has sunk her teeth into her new position, biting two visitors at an event on Wednesday, including the husband of the deputy foreign minister.

At a candle-lighting ceremony to mark the Jewish festival of Hannukah, the 10-year-old mixed breed also took a snip at a member of parliament from Netanyahu's Likud party.

Watch Harrison Ford mock Donald Trump

Hrrison Ford has accused Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump of not being able to tell fact from fiction.

Last week, Trump told The New York Times that he liked movies with heroic presidents. In Air Force One, Ford played the part of a US President who takes on terrorists who have hijacked his plane.

Actress Uche Chased Out Of Her Husband's House Over Leaked Clips

                             

Another Nollywood actress in marital crisis. Any lady who is saying if my man does this, I will do my own too, just know that you are writing your own sack letter from your husband's house.

One of the sad report about the hit Nigeria movie industry is how actress Uche Iwuanyawu got chased out of her matrimonial home by her husband, barely three months after their traditional marriage.

Father & Son Arrested For Stealing $41,000 Worth Of Chicken Wings

  

Syracuse.com reports: Two employees of a Syracuse restaurant are accused of stealing more than $40,000 in chicken wings and selling them to other restaurants and “on the street” for a poultry sum, according to the Onondaga County Sheriff’s Office.

Sheriff’s office spokesman Jon Seeber said Paul Rojek, 56, and Joshua Rojek, 33, of Syracuse, billed approximately $41,000 of chicken-wing orders to the Twin Trees Two restaurant’s business account between February and late November.

PHOTOS: Obafemi Martins spending large, shows off his wealth

 

Talented footballer, Obafemi Martins needs no introduction, he has been around and has paid his dues in the round letter game and beyond! He was the fifth highest paid player in US Major League Soccer for the 2013 season and also the highest ever paid player for Seattle Sounders with an annual basic salary of $1.6million, according to a players’ union release.

More photos..

91 year old woman suffocated during s*x game with married 49 year old neighbour

A 91-year-old woman is believed to have suffocated during a sex game with her 49-year-old neighbour.
The woman was found on her bed naked from her waist down next to a sex toy in Aveiro, 50 miles south of Porto, Portugal.

The Richest 20 Americans Are Now As Wealthy As Half Of The Entire U.S. Population Combined

                    

The richest 20 Americans, with a combined net worth of $732billion, are as wealthy as half of the U.S. population, according to a new study.

Findings showed that the country's 20 wealthiest people, which includes Bill Gates and Warren Buffet, now own more wealth than the bottom half of the population combined or 152 million people.

‘Fibroid now being removed without surgery’

Women no longer have to undergo fibroid removal surgery following new method of treatment, Dr Felix Ogedegbe has said.

Speaking at the opening of Cedarcrest Hospital in Ikeja, the Lagos State capital, Ogedegbe said, the hospital has infrastructure and personnel to handle maternal health challenges.

Meet the couple who haven't had s*x for 10 years

   

When Erica Davies,33 started dating bus driver Gareth Davies she dropped a bombshell. She revealed she had a severe phobia of sex and the very thought of sleeping with him made her sick.
Instead of walking away, smitten Gareth, 35, settled for holding hands and the odd kiss or cuddle.
And it’s stayed that way – with the pair sleeping in separate bedrooms – for an incredible 10 years.

How to Change Bad Habits and Live a Heart Healthy Lifestyle

Learn to form healthy habits by replacing the bad ones. Substituting healthy habits for unhealthy ones rewards you with more stamina, better quality of life – and a healthier you.

That is easier said than done, of course, but some simple tips can help you tackle even the most indulgent and hardest-to-kick habits. Rani Whitfield, M.D., a Baton Rouge, La., family practitioner and American Heart Association volunteer, is on a mission to help people change their unhealthy habits.

“An unhealthy habit is easy to develop and hard to live with; a healthy habit is harder to develop but easier to live with,” said Whitfield, who has earned the nickname “The Hip Hop Doc” through his work getting young people to make healthier choices.

Regardless of your age, you can benefit from Whitfield’s simple habit-changing tips.
First, he says, know that it takes 60 to 90 days to create a new habit. You have to keep after it. If you forget sometimes, or if at first you don’t figure how to make it work with your schedule, keep after it.
It helps to remember that an unhealthy habit is attractive because it gives instant gratification—that immediate “feel good.” But you pay later. On the other hand, a healthy habit means you put off gratification but get a much bigger payoff down the road.

Think of your task as replacement rather than deprivation. Says Whitfield, “Kojak sucked on lollipops because he was stopping smoking,” said of the famous 1970s TV detective. Of course, too much candy is bad for you, too – but a few lollipops is much better than smoking when it comes to your heart health. Whitfield says it’s important to “find your real motivation.” It’s OK and in fact helpful to use another motivation in addition to getting healthier. “A lot of people will do it for their children,” he says. They want to set a good example, or they simply want to live to see their kids graduate. And then there’s good old vanity. “If you want six-pack abs, maybe your motivation is to ask out a certain lady,” says Whitfield.
Here are his top tips:

1.Break a big goal into smaller short-term goals. “Don’t go cold turkey,” he says. “Suppose you’re drinking five beers a day, and you want to get down to six a month. Reduce to three a day. You’ll see the benefits and feel more motivated to move toward your longer-term goal.”

2.Tell someone you trust – not someone who will sabotage you. Be accountable to someone all the time.
It’s toughest forming a healthy habit if you don’t have support. For example, one spouse might be trying to stop smoking while the other one isn’t. “You have to find some inner strength, some self-motivation and push through it. Or get couples counseling, a safe setting where you can ask your spouse: ‘Can you be supportive and go outside to smoke?’ ”

3.Allow a “cheat” once in a while. “If you’ve avoided sweets all week and you’ve been exercising, and you go to Grandma’s, you can afford that ONE small piece of apple pie. Or let yourself have one ‘crazy meal’ a week.”

Break the TV habit in favor of exercise. “Tell yourself, ‘If I just have to watch Martin Lawrence, I’ll Tivo it and watch on the weekend, or do my exercise and then have the show as my reward to myself.’
“Or, if you have room, you can exercise in front of the TV,” he said. For some, TV seems to be their only friend. “If it’s all about escapism, the underlying anxiety or depression needs to be treated, or if you can’t finish tasks, do your work or the housework,” He says.

He knows it’s tough out there.
“More people are drinking or using marijuana more often to deal with anxiety and depression over family problems or lack of a job, and maybe the inability to relax or to sleep,” Whitfield says. ”They are not understanding that they are making their own problems worse. Alcohol is a depressant; illegal drugs will land you in jail.”

4 lies to stop telling yourself about your relationship

1. 'Relationships should be easy' or 'It shouldn't be this hard'

Really? Where did this idea come from? If we think this is true, every time an issue comes up to test or challenge us, we will hit a wall. Believing this will set you up to fail.

The fact is, sometimes relationships and human experiences are complicated, painful and difficult, but similarly the feelings of love and connection are also so amazing that it makes the tough times worth working through. It's the hardships that make you stronger and help you grow both as a couple and as individuals.

2. 'Arguing is bad'

All couples argue; it's a normal, healthy part of being in a relationship and I'd be more worried if a couple said they never argued because I'd be thinking, are there issues being bottled up?

It's not necessarily arguing that's bad; it's more to do with the way you argue and resolve conflict that can be bad. If your arguments are very intense and damaging and there's no apology and resolution to them, then arguments can feel very threatening in your relationship.

3. 'We should be having sex all the time'

Some couples worry that they are not having as much sex as they think they should be. When  asked what's going on in their lives, they tell you about young children, work, study, travel, running households etc. and I'm not surprised that sex has dropped off the agenda.

Realistically our sex lives will ebb and flow according to the demands on our energy and time. If you're having loads of sex, everywhere, all the time, in lots of different positions, that's great! But I would say you're in the minority rather than that being the 'norm' for most couples.

At a purely physical level if you're very stressed and tired, all your blood will be rushing away from your genitals and the last thing you will feel like doing is having sex. This may not have anything to do with attraction to your partner or the state of your relationship.

Often it's the worry that you're not having sex that puts pressure on you. If you can talk about the fact that it's actually ok and take the pressure off yourselves, you might find when you relax, that's when the sexual feelings come back.

4. 'If they love me, they'll change'

 Often you see couples in limbo, unable to progress because they are caught in an internal struggle between what they want their partners to be and who they actually are.

Just because somebody loves you, doesn't mean that they can be someone they're not, or give you something they don't have. Even if they want to, it's like asking a cat to be a dog, or a poor person to give you a million naira.

Saying that, of course there's room to grow and negotiate, but both parties have to be open to doing this for the relationship to work. But what it comes down to is you may have to accept your partner for who they are, or recognise that the relationship is not going to work long term and find someone who does meet your needs and gives you what you want.

These Are Venereal Diseases That You Can “Pick up” Even Without Having Sexual Relations, and Here is How!

Terrible but true is the fact that you do not have to have sexual relation to get a sexually transmitted disease.

Gynecologist Alissa Dveck from New York and author of the book ‘V is for Vagina’ revealed all the hidden viruses.

• HPV

Although in recent times we hear more and more about HPV, many people still do not know that this virus can be transmitted even without sexual relation. “HPV is transmitted through skin, whether you touch a nipple or the area that surrounds it,” says Dveck.

HPV comes in various forms, some of which can cause genital warts, while others may result in pre-cancerous lesions. It does not even have to be in the form of wart to be infected with HIV, because the virus can spread even before it has spread in the body.

“Warts can sometimes occur in other parts of the body, such as fingers,” says Dveck. Although warts can be removed, for example by freezing, or by cutting, and further the virus can remain in the body, and periodically be activated.

• Molluscum Contagiosum

Although it sounds like something out of Harry Potter, Molluscum contagiosum are far from it. Although technically it is about a virus infection, and not a sexual-transmitted disease, Dveck notes that the increased the number of women who have increased bumps with craters on the genitals, rather than on other parts of the body.

Molluscum is usually transmitted through the skin or even beds in solariums. Although lumps are not painful, once you get one they can spread, why you should be concerned.

“The virus itself will disappear, and the bumps can be removed. But if are frozen, they can be sent for analysis to a laboratory, “says Dveck. The positive thing is that once you get rid of the virus, the infection usually does not return.

• Trichomoniasis

This disease is not very well known, but it is worth to hear something about it because the virus can survive on inanimate object rather long after it has touched someone infected. It can occur in the form of vaginal infection, with malodorous discharge and itching and irritation.

“It may be transferred with things like dirty towel or unwashed vibrator,” says Dveck.

Although there is no exact information how long the virus can survive, Dveck explains that it is unlikely to become infected by touching objects a few weeks after it was touched by people with trichomoniasis.

Fortunately, it can be easily cured with antibiotics.

• Herpes

This is often the first infection that people think about when sexually transmitted diseases are mentioned. Therefore, it is quite alarming the discovery that it can be transferred otherwise. “Herpes can be transmitted by kissing or sharing dirty razors or unwashed dishes, though there is a fairly low risk,” said Dveck.

Although there are two types of herpes, HSV-1 and HSV-2, gynecologists do not make great differences among them. HSV-1 was considered oral and HSV-2 genital type, but today the difference is less important than before. “Apart from the fact that the type 1 usually does not come back, while type 2 is more often repeated, both types can occur anywhere on the body,” says Dveck.

Although herpes may be asymptomatic, wound around the mouth is a sure sign of a viral infection, the wound on the genitals can only indicate herpes. And while doctors know how to cure the symptoms, there is not yet a cure against the virus.

Deformed Bones from Tight Shoes – Rub Your FEET With…

Deformed bones or joints in your hands or feet are a real suffering, especially if you wear tight shoes.
In order to heal the pain, prepare the following simple recipe.

In 10 ml tincture of iodine dissolve 5 tablets aspirin and mix until the mixture becomes colorless.

Moisten painful spots with it and put on socks or put gloves if you have a problem with your hands. The aim is better to warm the place. Stay with socks at night. Continue to use the recipe 2 weeks, without missing a single night. Then take a break of 1 month.

For best effect it is necessary to do 4 such treatment procedures and will have a visible improvement of the situation and the pain will completely disappear.

How to Turn on the Happiness Gene

Can we become happier, or are some just born with propensity for being happy? We all know someone who seems to be happy and can float through life. Of course we’re not one of those lucky ones, right? Hold on, you do have a choice in this happiness matter.

Scientists discovered a gene that regulates motion of serotonin in our brains, so don’t feel bad. The 5-HTT gene could be a direct correlation to the person’s happiness.

However, scientists don’t believe that our wellbeing in contained this one gene. There are other variables that influence individual happiness.

“But this finding helps to explain why we each have a unique baseline level of happiness and why some people tend to be naturally happier than others, and that's in no small part due to our individual genetic make-up,” the

Journal of Human Genetics

reported.

What if that gene doesn’t exist in you, and where do we go from here?

Best-selling author Dr. Deepak Chopra of Super Genes

said you can do something. We know there are repercussions in living an unhealthy lifestyle like smoking and drinking. They are also affected by positives changes to our diet, by reducing stress, and genes are like the brain when you start changing. Your genome is responsive--the gene activity changes and it is fluid throughout our lives.

Doctor Rudy Tanzi who co-authored the book said in an interview in 2014 that every experience we have causes chemical changes in the brain and in our bodies.


“And those genetic changes occur often enough and with persistence, that can lead to modification of those genes such that they react the same way in the future because they’ve been trained."

So we need to change our thought process, to change our genes to become happier? I thought it was biological. It sounds like a farfetched idea. Wait a minute, biology doesn’t determine destiny?

No, said Chopra. There are many factors that influence us like stress management, life events, and again, lifestyle choices. He said we change the genetic activity which includes the proteins, and enzymes of individual cells.

“You are speaking to your genes with every thought, word, and action. Experiences are recorded and remembered at the genetic level (such markers are studied in a special field known as epigenetics, which focuses on how sections of DNA are activated or suppressed). Without going into the complexities of genetic activity, a single lesson is emerging: a person's genes and their lifestyle form a single feedback loop,” he wrote.


Chopra suggested that we work with our bodies, not against it by making better choices, and choosing healthier thoughts. This mean eating better, and exercising, and believing you are not a victim, but a conqueror. Thinking along the lines of this, pumps you up into happiness. You can already feel yourself come alive.

Here is what you can do

 Start by letting this stress go. You can’t control everything in life, but you can control reactions, how to tackle, tasks, problems, and other hurdles. Start meditating, to calm down. Allow yourself to slow down and live in the present. This will take time, but try it for 10 minutes. Being still allows for you stop multitasking and take one thing at time. Scientist also found that if you smile more, it improves health! You might not like this next one.

During his Ted Talk on how to be happy psychologist Dan Gilbert explained we need to stop chasing success Inc. shared “Our brains have a defense mechanism that's hard-wired to make us happy with the lives we have, whatever those may be. Even Pete Best, a drummer best known for getting fired by the Beatles just before they hit it big, now says he wouldn't want it any other way.”

A lot of our stress comes from chasing something making, more advancing our careers, and other material things. Not only if we slow down in these areas, might we find there are things more important, like being happy.

Photos from Pope Francis's meeting with Kenyan youths

            

Pope Francis who is currently in Kenya had a meeting with some of the youths at the Kenyan National Stadium this morning..

                       

                    

  

                

Checkout The Countries With The Highest Divorce Rate

                             

Marriage and divorce are both common experiences. In Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people marry by age 50 while 97 percent of people marry before 40 in Africa. Healthy marriages are good for couples’ mental and physical health. They are also good for children; growing up in a happy home protects children from mental, physical, educational and social problems.

However, about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages may even be higher.

According to the UN, the country with the highest divorce rate in the world is
the Maldives with 10.97 divorces per 1,000 inhabitants per year. This is followed by the Belarus with 4.63 and the United States with 4.34.

                                  

Lucky enough, Nigeria ranks 124th
Thats good enough

I Don’t Have Shares In Etisalat- El-Rufai

Kaduna State Governor, Nasir El-Rufai has said he has no shares in Etisalat after some news outlets reported that he was backing MTN concerning the fine slammed on it by the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC), so Etisalat where he has shares could also be protected at the long run.

PHOTOS: Woman forgives her mum for stealing her man,but won't attend their wedding

  

A woman has forgiven her mother for having stealing her man .However, Danni can’t bring herself to watch as her mum,Marie weds Anthony Key ,the man she stole from her.
The affair between Danni’s cheating ex and her mum, 44, nearly tore the family apart.Yet the young mum has forgiven Marie for the ultimate betrayal.

Serial Mistress Says She's Doing Lovers Wives A Favour

                     


Financial consultant Gweneth Lee claims her lovers would have left their wives if they had not been able to have a fling.

The 45-year-old insists at least one of the wives tolerated the affair.

Gweneth says the wife was concerned her husband would have an affair elsewhere as she was no longer interested in sex.

The Queen to return to beloved Malta where she once lived

On Friday the Queen will take a walk down memory lane as she returns to one of her favourite countries in the world – Malta. Her Majesty used to live on the island for a brief period before her reign, when she was still Princess Elizabeth and her husband Prince Philip was stationed there as a serving Royal Navy officer.

This weekend's trip will be a mix of business and pleasure for the 89-year-old monarch. She is due to attend the Commonwealth Heads of Government Meeting (CHOGM) in the capital Valletta until Sunday.

The Queen and Prince Philip, 94, will be joined by their son Prince Charles and his wife the Duchess of Cornwall.

The Queen once lived in Malta where "she was able to lead a normal life"

Every two years a meeting of the CHOGM is held at locations throughout the Commonwealth and this year Malta was chosen. The Queen usually attends, during which she has a series of private meetings with the Commonwealth countries' leaders.

A lavish reception and dinner are also held at which Her Majesty delivers a speech.

                     

The royals enjoyed "magical days of endless picnics, sunbathing and waterskiing"

It's clear that Malta – the only foreign country where the Queen has ever lived – holds a special place in the monarch's heart. Just a couple of years after she married Prince Philip, her father King George VI encouraged his daughter to join her husband on the island. Philip had just been made First Lieutenant on HMS Chequers.

Arriving around the time of her second wedding anniversary with baby Prince Charles in tow, the then-Princess embraced her new life on the sunny isle.

The royal couple lived at Villa Guardamangia at various times between 1949 and 1951. The grand two-storey mansion was leased by Philip's relative Lord Louis Mountbatten.


The couple lived in the grand Villa Guardamangia with baby Prince Charles

Speaking in a rare interview Lord Mountbatten's daughter Lady Pamela, who acted as one of the Queen's bridesmaids, opened up about the royal's time on the island.

"They were magical days of endless picnics, sunbathing and waterskiing," Lady Pamela told Mail Online. "The Princess really loved Malta because she was able to lead a normal life, wander through the town and do some shopping. It was the only place that she was able to live the life of a naval officer's wife, just like all the other wives. It was wonderful for her and it's why they have such a nostalgia for Malta."


When the Queen and Prince Philip return this weekend, there's no doubt that their trip will revive golden memories of their idyllic island life.

HELLO!

Domestic Violence 'I did not cut my wife's ear' - Accused husband

In the past few days, the social media has been agog over the story of a man, Nonso Paul Nzedebe, who allegedly battered his wife, Nwogo, and used a plier to cut off her ear.

With many Nigerians roundly condemning the man and calling all sorts of names, Nzedebe, a lawyer, has come out with own side of the story, claiming that he did not commit the act he is being accused of.

In a press statement he released earlier today, Nzedebe said his iwfe was even the one that attacked him with a knife when he tried to stop her from beating their housemaid to death.

He also stated that she injured herself with a plier their security man used to try and repair the door she destroyed during the fight.

  


Read his own side of the story:

"It is with uttermost dismay, disgust ‎and shock, when I learnt of the details of the allegation that I cut off my wife's ear.

Please be patient to hear my side of the story.

The occasion leading up to the event, that led to the injury sustained by my wife, was a fight between my wife and the housemaid.

I am completely stunned that somebody would turn around and tell the whole world that I did this to my wife.

I am a victim of circumstances in this incident as I only came to separate a fight at about 11:30pm between my wife and the maid.

On the 18th ‎November, 2015, late at night while I was asleep, I suddenly heard a loud noise thinking it was armed robbers, that came to attack the compound only to wake up and find out that it was my wife that was beating the maid to stupor.

I was barely naked with wrapper when I rushed to restrain her from further beating up the maid. She turned around to tell me that I am a useless man and the next thing I heard was a slap from her. I was dazed and fell on the wall. I struggled to get my boxer while she continued to attack me.

She destroyed the window blinds and my computer before the neighbours rushed in. She went for the kitchen knife and started threatening to kill me. She finally left the compound, unknowingly to me and the gate man as we were about repairing the door so that we can put it in proper condition for the night, she came from nowhere to rain deadly blows on my face.

The neighbours held me and she was kicking and hitting me on the face so I struggled to defend my eyes. It was in the heat of the ensuing altercation that the plier with the gate man accidentally hit on her ear. Immediately she turned around and said that she has finally gotten me and that is the end of my life and that they should snap her. She was taken to the hospital and the ear was stitched back immediately.

The altercation which ensued was between her and the house maid but the issue of cutting her ears was totally an accident as a result of me trying to restrain my wife from fighting the maid.

I want ‎the public to know the both sides of a story before ever coming to a conclusion and Judgment.

Thank you

Chukwunonso Paul Nzedebe, Esq. *LL.B (UNIBEN) B.L*"

It Feels Like Love — But Is It?

Sometimes it feels impossible to find someone who's right for you — and who thinks you're right for him or her! So when it happens, you're usually so psyched that you don't even mind when your little brother finishes all the ice cream or your English teacher chooses the one day when you didn't do your reading to give you a pop quiz.

It's totally normal to look at the world through rose-colored glasses in the early stages of a relationship. But for some people, those rose-colored glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship isn't as healthy as it should be.

What Makes a Healthy Relationship?
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities:

• Mutual respect. Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are — for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.

• Trust. You're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.

• Honesty. This one goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your girlfriend in a major lie? Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night but it turned out she was at the movies with her friends? The next time she says she has to work, you'll have a lot more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky ground.

Support. It's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents are getting divorced and to celebrate with you when you get the lead in a play.

• Fairness/equality. You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.

• Separate identities. In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.

• Good communication. You've probably heard lots of stuff about how men and women don't seem to speak the same language. We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "no, nothing's wrong" can have, depending on who's saying it! But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it.

How to make a kiss memorable -- and avoid kissing mistakes.

Whether it's your first kiss or your thousandth, whether it’s with someone new or with your longtime partner, kissing leaves an impression -- one that lingers long after your lips have disengaged.

And, experts say, kissing plays an important role in relationships. "It fosters romantic compatibility," says Michael Christian, author of The Art of Kissing (published under the pen name William Cane). "The more that people kiss, the more they're able to communicate on a romantic level."

Speak Up

Many couples hesitate to talk about kissing out of embarrassment, Christian says. But if your first kiss -- or any of the many that follow -- isn't what you're hoping for, talk about it.

Don't be shy about telling your partner what you like or asking what your partner prefers, Christian says. Just don't do it while you're kissing so your partner doesn't take it as a rebuke.

Men's and Women's Kissing Mistakes

Most of us have clear preferences -- turn-ons and pet peeves -- when it comes to kissing styles.

Christian says men's biggest mistake is that they're too aggressive with their tongues. And men claim that women don't open their mouths wide enough.

For both sexes, the No. 1 kissing complaint is lack of variety, Christian says. He recommends kissing the different parts of your partner's face and paying special attention to the ears and neck. He suggests biting softly on the lower lip and nibbling gently on the earlobe.

Make It Memorable

Kirkland Desmond, a software engineer in Tampa, Fla., vividly recalls his first kiss with his wife a decade ago. They were sitting on the couch in her dad's living room, and as he leaned over to kiss her, he lost his balance and fell off the couch, pulling her down with him.

"I was so nervous because she was completely out of my league," he says. "So our first kiss happened while we were laughing, and 10 years and three beautiful children later, we're still laughing and kissing every chance we get."


Two keys to a memorable kiss are pleasing your partner and pleasing yourself.

My Boyfriend Made Me Kidnap 4 year old Boy, He Wanted to Pay My Bride Price - Suspect

                             

One of the four suspected kidnappers of a four-year-old-boy, Steve Kanu, in Abeokuta has confessed that she regretted her action. But that it was her boyfriend, who wanted to travel abroad and wanted to pay her bride price, that put pressure on her to commit the crime.”

Young Steve was kidnapped at his parents’ home at Laderin Estate, Abeokuta, on Monday, November 2, 2015. He was, however, rescued alive last Friday by the men of the Ogun State Police Command, who swooped on the kidnappers at Nsukka, Enugu State, and rescued the boy alive. A ransom of N1m was paid to the kidnappers before he was rescued.

Dr. and Mrs. Mucipay Kanu, beamed with smile when they appeared with their son at the state police
command headquarters, Eleweran, on Monday.

The suspects arrested for the crime were also paraded by the Commissioner of Police, Abdulmajid Ali.

The suspects are Kenechukwu Amoke (21), Anayo Amoke (35), Oluchi Asadu (20) and Maureen Uchenna (25).

Maureen, who was a staff nurse in Dr. Mucipay Kanu’s hospital in Abeokuta for over three years before she resigned in July this year, was said to have planned the abduction of Steve with her boyfriend, Obinna Amoke, who is currently on the run.

The nurse said she regretted being part of the kidnapping.

She said:

“I learnt that Doctor paid N1m ransom to one of our members in Abeokuta before the police detectives arrested us in Enugu.
“I regretted my action, but it was my boyfriend, who wanted to travel abroad and wanted to pay my bride price, that put pressure on me to commit this crime.”

The commissioner, while parading the suspected kidnappers, said the manhunt for Obinna was on, adding that he would be arrested.

“The boy was kept for eight days in Anayo Amoke’s residence in Isale Ibefun in Abeokuta, before he was moved to Nsukka, where they kept him in Oluchi Asadu’s house,” the CP said.

He said he would liase with the Governor of Enugu State, Ifeanyi Ugwuanyi, to ensure that Obinna’s house in the village was demolished.

Understanding the Dangers and Causes of Hypertension

By James M. Rippe

Hypertension isn't called a killer for nothing. High blood pressure is a significant risk factor for developing coronary artery disease (CAD), the leading cause of death in the United States, and it's considered a significant risk for stroke, heart failure, and kidney failure. Anyone with poorly treated hypertension at least doubles his or her risk of developing all of these conditions. And remember, the higher the blood pressure, the higher the danger.

Thus, even individuals who have no symptoms when initially diagnosed with hypertension need to work hard to control blood pressure to prevent these potentially devastating complications. When you're already diagnosed with heart disease and hypertension, then controlling your blood pressure within recommended levels is perhaps the most important step you can take toward preventing or slowing the progress of your heart disease.

Determining the causes of hypertension

In the vast majority (more than 90 percent) of people with high blood pressure, physicians aren't able to determine its exact cause. In medical terms, this condition is known as idiopathic hypertension. That's not to say that physicians are idiots, but that they haven't yet figured out the precise mechanisms, functions, or agents that cause hypertension. Hypertension of an undetermined cause also is termed essential high blood pressure. In the same way that idiopathic doesn't mean that doctors are idiots, neither does essential mean that having hypertension is essential. Quite the contrary! Treating it is what is essential! Look at some of the factors that appear to contribute to hypertension.

• Salt intake: Among the theories about what causes essential high blood pressure, most relate to problems that your kidneys appear to have with handling excess salt. Population studies show that societies in which people consume large amounts of salt (such as the United States) have a correspondingly high incidence of high blood pressure. Similarly, in cultures where salt intake is low, the incidence of high blood pressure is extremely low. Other studies show that for most people with hypertension, restricting salt intake helps lower high blood pressure.

Inherited predisposition: Hypertension also appears to have a genetic component. Some people may be genetically predisposed to have high blood pressure. However, although hypertension runs in some families, these tendencies may actually result as much from shared lifestyles as they do from shared genetic backgrounds. Doctors certainly know that lifestyle factors, such as obesity (and abdominal obesity, in particular), inactivity, cigarette smoking, and high alcohol consumption all are associated with increased risk of hypertension.

• Known conditions that cause it: In approximately 10 percent of the people with hypertension, the specific underlying cause can be discovered. This condition is known as secondary hypertension, meaning it's a secondary result of a separate primary condition. If the underlying condition can be treated and corrected, then secondary hypertension usually is corrected, too. Conditions known to cause secondary high blood pressure include

• Narrowing of the arteries that supply the kidneys

• Other diseases of kidneys

• Abnormalities in the endocrine system, such as overactive adrenal glands

• Transient conditions such as pregnancy for certain women

• Certain medications that can increase the risk of high blood pressure, such as oral contraceptives or estrogen replacement therapy following menopause

If you're diagnosed with high blood pressure, your doctor will explore any of these potential underlying causes for hypertension prior to making the diagnosis.

Checking out other risk factors

Although medical science may not know the exact mechanisms that cause essential hypertension, a number of conditions are strongly associated with increases in high blood pressure. Arresting any one of this gang of probable causes usually leads to lower blood pressure. For many people, controlling these conditions actually returns their blood pressure to normal levels.
Obesity: Hypertension is most clearly associated with obesity (weighing more than 20 percent above your desirable body weight). Obesity contributes to an estimated 40 percent or more of all high blood pressure cases in the United States. Although not everyone who is overweight has high blood pressure, the association remains crystal clear.

Cigarette smoking: Cigarette smoking and the use of other tobacco products increase blood pressure, both in the short term while you're smoking or chewing and in the long term, because components in the smoke or chewing tobacco, such as nicotine, cause your arteries to constrict. Childhood experiments with the nozzle on a garden hose indicate what happens when you force the same volume of liquid through a smaller opening. That higher pressure isn't a happy thing for your arteries.

Alcohol intake: Drinking small to moderate amounts of alcohol (fewer than two beers, two glasses of wine, or one shot of distilled spirits) per day has been shown in a number of studies to reduce mortality from CAD. Higher consumption of alcohol (three or more alcoholic drinks per day), however, clearly is associated with increased blood pressure, not to mention an increased risk of dying from heart disease.

Physical inactivity: People who are physically inactive increase their likelihood of developing high blood pressure. In one large study of more than 16,000 individuals, inactive people were 35 percent more likely to develop hypertension than were active people, regardless of whether they had a family history of high blood pressure or a personal history of being overweight.

5 Warning Signs of Heart Attack

Visit your doctor if you experience any of these warning signs of heart attack:

• Chest pain or discomfort — uncomfortable pressure, fullness, squeezing, or pain in the center of the chest lasting more than a few minutes.

• Pain spreading to the shoulders, neck, or arms.

• Shortness of breath, with or without chest discomfort.

• Chest discomfort with lightheadedness, fainting, sweating, nausea, or shortness of breath.

• Pain in the back and/or jaw, shortness of breath, extreme fatigue, nausea/vomiting, and lightheadedness. Note: These are additional signs of heart attack or more common signs of heart attack in women.

Check Whether You Have Cancer – A New Simple Recipe With Yogurt

Previous screening methods for colorectal cancer included injection of certain molecules, and the new method reject the invasive part using modified bacteria from yogurt.

Scientists from the Institute of Technology of Massachusetts came to a simple method for detecting cancer, which only includes yogurt and urine test.

Professor Sangita Bhatia managed to develop molecules that act as biomarkers in detecting cancerous cells in colorectal cancer. If these molecules are drunk with yogurt, they find their way to the cancer cells, where enzymes are broken down to small particles that are ejected from the body through urine.

All you need is a small piece of paper to collect these particles.

Previous screening methods for colorectal cancer included injection of these molecules, and the new method of reject the invasive part using modified bacteria from yogurt.

Tests were carried out in mice, while in clinical trials in humans; this method would prove extremely simple and cheap in detecting the evil disease.


According to the American Association Against Cancer (ACS), only 40% of people with colorectal cancer have early diagnosis of the disease, due to insufficient examination.