Silicon sex dolls have increasingly gained popularity in Nigeria society providing well needed sexual fantasy for men of means.
The quest to get maximum satisfaction from sexual desires has pushed some Nigerians, especially the elite to crave for sexual satisfaction from silicon-made sex dolls. The $6,000 or less (about N1.1 m) human-like sex dolls are increasingly finding their ways into many homes in the country, providing epic sexual pleasures to their users, LEADERSHIP Weekend’s investigations has revealed.
Some Nigerian men are finding comfort keeping human-like sex dolls in the comfort of their bedrooms and getting the fantasy anytime they want without stress instead of dealing with women.
“What will make a man spend a fortune on a silicon doll for pleasure that has already been bestowed in a woman? Are women no longer available? What is wrong with our society? Are we going crazy? Questions begging for answers, as the nation join the league of Nations with penchant for imported silicon sex dolls.
God forbid! Said Veronica Adamu, a civil servant in Abuja, “with all God has bestowed upon me, my husband cannot look somewhere else let alone a doll for pleasure and since he is not insane, he wouldn’t go for that”, she boasted.
Many respondents were shocked to hear of such development in the country. Mrs Gloria Adanu, a businesswoman on hearing about it from LEADERSHIP Weekend immediately went into prayers for her husband who is a contractor and travels a lot. “It is shocking to hear of such things in our society but I pray my husband does not lose track of me,” Adanu said amid prayers.
Although many have described the trend in Nigeria as a sign of end time, the invasion of the Nigerian market and its acceptance is making the European and Asian countries who manufacture the dolls happy. Business has been good for the importers too.
A dealer of sex enhancing objects (name withheld) told LEADERSHIP Weekend that open-minded people are not bothered by the general feeling towards sex toys.
“Modern open-minded people, most especially those willing to explore the forbidden, go beyond what society perceives as ‘morally upright’. My clientele are usually between 23-35 years old (men/women), the older ones from 36 to 45-year-olds (men especially) have been somewhat shocked and surprised by the use of sex toys, or its rampant existence within the Nigerian society, though they appear intrigued and willing to entertain the show and discuss it but when it comes down to acceptance, they seem to ‘sneer their noses’ in the air and are caught between their desires and their ‘morality’ tagging it ‘society of nowadays has gone awry’’, he said.
Amazingly, silicone sex dolls have several features that compete with human beings up to 95 per cent, an incredible feat.
It has a life span of up to two years when used daily and can last more years when sparingly used. It is completely adjustable to any position the user wants and has a beauty that only the Miss World matches. It is also said to have about 100 sensors spread around the body. There are 30 sensors on the private parts. Each sensor makes it (the doll) move in a specific way, up to 20 positions. It is a complete package for a man to get maximum satisfaction.
Interestingly, the bizarre human-like object comes with in-built sound in the throat and recognises up to 16 commands that are extremely personal up to two metres away from its ears.
The doll is said to have the ability to respond to stimulation in a sensual manner to give the user a feeling of a real woman. Strikingly, the doll gets sexually aroused with a slight touch over any of the sensors and has a voice password that makes it personal to the owner.
Further investigations by LEADERSHIP Weekend revealed that Nigerian men who prefer the doll fell for it chiefly because of the unique characteristics associated with it. According to a source, the principal characteristics are that, the doll does not speak, does not get fat, never has periods, does not ‘pass gas’, never goes shopping, does not get pregnant, doesn’t have a mother or father, never gets sick and does not go to the hair salons.
Others are that it does not watch television as normal women do, distracting them from bedroom business and doesn’t care what the owner watches on television or bothers about radio shows and do not frequent internet chat rooms. It never gets elderly human physical attributes, never gets jealous if the man brings home another woman and never nags if the man goes out and won’t care when he returns.
It also has a sitting pose, standing pose, sleeping pose and ability to cross legs just like a woman.
When LEADERSHIP Weekend went to town to sample opinion on the growing men’s fantasy, the female respondents were mostly shy about speaking their minds on the matter but marvelled at the level technology has taken man to. “What is wrong with our flesh and emotions? Hadiza Sani, a socialite banker asked. “Our society is going insane, our men should man up and face the real world and not the world of man-made dolls,” she charged.
Meanwhile, some Abuja-based commercial sex workers who spoke with LEADERSHIP Weekend in their hide-outs feared for the worse. They were of the view that if men can afford to buy human-like sex dolls, the patronage from them would drop, affecting their trade. “If the dolls can give them 95 per cent of the pleasure and satisfaction of what they get from us, then we are in serious trouble”, the sexy-looking Pinky J. said.
“What about it? If my woman gives me troubles and I can’t take it, I will surely look for succour elsewhere and if it will take a doll to give me peace, I wouldn’t mind,” a middle aged man told LEADERSHIP Weekend in Abuja. Without a blush, he said women are becoming too demanding and the sex dolls are good replacements.
A businessman, Mr Silas, told LEADERSHIP Weekend that some people just keep dolls and it’s a personal thing and he doesn’t see anything wrong with it. He opined that the wealthy in the society have taken dolls to another level into pervasive sexual fantasy that is threatening the moral conduct of society.
A psychologist and don at the Benue State University, Makurdi, Prof Josiah Shindi, said sex is a vital part of human relationship but when fear sets in, there is a problem. He stated that in men, it results to several abnormal medical cases such as premature ejaculation. He noted that sex dolls are an invention to take the first two vital aspects of relationship in men which are stimulation and orgasm. “Man going for sex dolls is unnatural and negates the principle of God who made sex to be enjoyed within a relationship but unfortunately, many people in Europe think that sex is only enjoyed when two private parts meet,” he said.
On the growing trend of sex dolls in Nigeria, Prof Shindi said Western manufacturers are desperately looking for markets for their products and warned that if the growing trend is not checked, people would not value marriage and may start avoiding it.
“When sex can be gotten from a doll then there wouldn’t be need for a woman but can a doll talk to you when you are lonely, can it help you, can it cook?”, he asked.
He advised that human to human relationship is very important for the growth and development of the society. “We should not go off the natural setting,” Prof Shindi admonished.
Also speaking on the matter, a sociologist at the Nasarawa State University, Keffi, Dr Theophilus Lagi, said the bizarre phenomenon has now berthed in Africa. He is of the view that social insecurity largely contributed to the trend of sex dolls in homes. “Such individuals who use them are not properly integrated in the sense that he/she does not know the means and ways to have a stable relationship with a partner and get insecure, choosing to find satisfaction in an object,” Lagi said.
He added that people who engage themselves in such acts are separating themselves from the society and run the risk of getting lost in the world of imagination. In dealing with the trend in Nigeria, Dr Lagi opined that African values must be further encouraged among the people in the face of powerful Western influence.
Speaking from a religious point of view, Rev. Reuben Yaro of ECWA Church, Nyanya-Abuja, said unnatural affection is contrary to the will of God. “That is the act of men that are condemned in the presence of God,” he posited.
He was of the view that most people at that stage are not followers of the Christian doctrine and warned that the nation is risking the wrath of God by allowing such unnatural objects of relationship. “This is an act that every right-thinking person should fight against and not encourage because it invites God’s wrath on such nations.
“This is worse than gay marriage and as a nation, just the way we stood against same sex marriage, we should stand against sex dolls in Nigeria. Our lack of connection to God has led to lack of connection to one another, Yaro said.
From the Islamic perspective, Ustaz Abdulfattah Adeyemi of Baynakum Family Counselling Centre, Abuja, said Islam does not deny the fact that people have certain needs. In Islam, all human needs are interconnected and there is none that can be treated in isolation of the other. The biological need of humans is the concept of marriage, an institution well put in order in the Quran. Adeyemi said the holy book enjoined all that are of the age of marriage to get a wife or husband.
He said the Quran vehemently rules against sex dolls, adding that those who believe guard their modesty and protect their private parts for their natural human spouses and anything aside that is not acceptable. “Sex dolls are an advanced level of masturbation which is not acceptable in Islam,” he said.
For Dr Michael Amedu, a Psychiatrist at the Ahmadu Bello University Teaching Hospital, Zaria, sex is an issue of preference. According to him, Nigeria has increasingly witnessed a surge in sex-related abnormalities recently even in conservative parts like Northern Nigeria. He said because people who engage in such acts do it in secret, studies have been difficult in that area.
He said there are people that are attracted to different sexual objects in the society and within the context of masturbation, people have come to use different kinds of objects and now finding pleasure in expressing their feelings in sex dolls. “Such people have devised a way of making it much more human,” Dr Amedu revealed.
He said Nigerians are increasingly going for sex dolls because it is a little representative of the human being. He said sexual preference has a lot social implications, same sex marriage is banned but sex with a doll that has female features is not, hence can be viewed as a social disorder or abnormal human behaviour.
So far, it doesn’t seem to have any long term adverse medical implication except the kind of sexual behaviour of a person becomes pervasive,” Dr Amedu added.
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