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No matter how smart you and your spouse are, both of you are bound to make some mistakes every now and then.
This is because, you two are coming from different backgrounds, with your individual opinion about life and what marriage is about.
That said, here are some common relationship mistakes that you and your significant other need to avoid:
Becoming baby-obsessed: It's easy to fixate on that next big step, but relax - the average couple has a child within three years of marriage. So really, why rush? Savour the moments (and vacations you can take) now, before you have to be waking up for a 4 a.m. feeding.
Turning you in-laws into outlaws: About 50 percent of couples surveyed revealed that they have a problematic relationship with their in-laws. Manage expectations, like saying you'll call on Sundays so his mom doesn't guilt-trip you for ignoring her weekday messages. Even if your spouse is complaining about his family, resist the urge to chime in. It'll backfire later.
Abandoning your friends: Believe it or not, friends are key for a successful marriage. So feel free to tag along on those girls' nights out. Just because you're not guy-hunting doesn't mean you can't be a supportive wingwoman.
Crazy fighting: Getting married isn't a free pass to hit below the belt. When you're getting really angry, walk away to cool down for a few minutes.
Not dealing with debt: Money is the major thing couples fight about. Open up and be honest about your personal debt (because for better or worse) and then set up a financial game plan going forward.
Letting yourself go: Being married doesn't mean you can get away with being overweight. Make a plan to get fit together or at least respect each other's goals.
Not having enough sex: More than 60 percent of newlyweds surveyed were already in a sex rut. Being busy is not a good enough excuse not to avoid a cozy time together. Initiate sex, even if you don't feel like it or have to schedule it. If you get in the habit of having it, you'll start wanting it (and liking it) more.
This is because, you two are coming from different backgrounds, with your individual opinion about life and what marriage is about.
That said, here are some common relationship mistakes that you and your significant other need to avoid:
Becoming baby-obsessed: It's easy to fixate on that next big step, but relax - the average couple has a child within three years of marriage. So really, why rush? Savour the moments (and vacations you can take) now, before you have to be waking up for a 4 a.m. feeding.
Turning you in-laws into outlaws: About 50 percent of couples surveyed revealed that they have a problematic relationship with their in-laws. Manage expectations, like saying you'll call on Sundays so his mom doesn't guilt-trip you for ignoring her weekday messages. Even if your spouse is complaining about his family, resist the urge to chime in. It'll backfire later.
Abandoning your friends: Believe it or not, friends are key for a successful marriage. So feel free to tag along on those girls' nights out. Just because you're not guy-hunting doesn't mean you can't be a supportive wingwoman.
Crazy fighting: Getting married isn't a free pass to hit below the belt. When you're getting really angry, walk away to cool down for a few minutes.
Not dealing with debt: Money is the major thing couples fight about. Open up and be honest about your personal debt (because for better or worse) and then set up a financial game plan going forward.
Letting yourself go: Being married doesn't mean you can get away with being overweight. Make a plan to get fit together or at least respect each other's goals.
Not having enough sex: More than 60 percent of newlyweds surveyed were already in a sex rut. Being busy is not a good enough excuse not to avoid a cozy time together. Initiate sex, even if you don't feel like it or have to schedule it. If you get in the habit of having it, you'll start wanting it (and liking it) more.
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