Undergraduate says drunk female student 'sexually assaulted' him after party

Many people believe that men cannot be a victim of rape, but a male rape victim and student of Stanford University has shared his ‘disturbing’ personal experience to bring attention to male rape and its victims.

A student of the Stanford University, Stanford, California, has opened a debate on male rape after he wrote that he was sexually assaulted by a female student in October 2013.

Justin Brown, a senior at Stanford, said a female student he met at a party "with a group of friends" 'raped' him.

He said they were both "a bit drunk, but not to any dangerous levels" and she began to make direct sexual advances while they were dancing.

"We started dancing, and then making out, then before I knew it, her hand was down my pants. I was surprised, as I hadn’t given her consent to take things a step farther, but I was nevertheless okay with i," he wrote in his article which appeared in theStanford Daily.

Justin said she then demanded for sex which he was not ready for, but had to stay with her since she was drunk and her friends had left her behind.

"While I was enjoying myself, sex was not on the agenda for the night.

"Even though I didn’t want to end the night in her bed, since she was drunk, I felt I should help her make it back to her dorm."

But things got messier when they left the venue of the party.

He said they had "frequent stop-offs" when they "make out with each other for a bit" until it became too much and he wanted to stop.

But she kept demanding sex and he could not leave her because he felt obliged to get her home:

"She continued to engage with me and I denied her requests with a verbal “no” several times. After several failed attempts to push off her advances, we got to the point where I was trading kisses and gropes for steps back to her dorm. Several times her hands went down my pants, and I was not okay with it. I did my best to stick to my “no” every time she demanded more, but at each denial she would stop dead in her tracks and refused to walk with me unless I complied."

"I felt stuck. Dragging her back to her dorm with her fighting against me simply didn’t feel right. Physically fighting her struggle was not the safest means to that end. But, it didn’t feel right to abandon her there either. She was drunk and could not be left alone in the state she was in. So I felt I had only one option: I complied."

After the incident, Justin felt he was raped, adding that he does not entirely blame her but thinks it was wrong that his ‘No’ “was not respected."

"I was confused, horny and intoxicated."

The student now wants the authorities to take sexual assault on males.

Using his case as an example, he said males often go from "victim to possible attacker."

He however states that he does not want the female student expelled as is being recommended by the authorities.

"To me, she’s just a student that made a mistake. However, she does deserve to know that what she did is defined as sexual assault.

"What she does not deserve is expulsion."

Justin’s article has sparked a debate among students and education stakeholders.

Do you think male rape is not being taken seriously?