In one of her Instagram posts, the ex-beauty queen says communication is key to marriage survival and that it has to be a two-way thing... not from the man alone.
Ex-Super Eagles defender Joseph Yobo's model wife gets in the news once again and this time, she is speaking out on how close she came to ending her own marriage after just two years.
Adaeze Yobo took to her instagram page, Saturday Nov. 8, to express how much she loves her family but also dishes advice on how to maintain a blissfull marriage especially for young couples.
According to an except posted by the ex-beauty queen, communication is key for marriage survival and it has to be a two-way thing... not from the man alone.
“This reminded me so much of the first 2years of my marriage (when i had too much ego, it was all about me and what "I deserve") I will always randomly have in mind that my husband shld know "we gotta go out" i wld seat my ass down all the time and just get mad, I mean doesn't he know? I won't even tell him nonsense! It wasn't that i desperately wanted to go out cos most of the time, we did we had nothing to say to each other but my "i deserve mentality" my after all, i'm the woman" "the queen" mentality, was my motivating factor..."
“Just texting or calling my hubby to say "hey babe, there is this restaurant that makes the best prawns (his fav?) let's casually go after yur training. Was what I shld hav said but here is what I actually said for 2 years, "Joe (which is what I call him wen am mad)? everybody went to that restaurant on that street and even last night this persons husband took her". Then he goes from 0-100 in like 2.2 secs and then my ego kicks in..."
“(You don't want to know how fast I also went kuku)?and no one ends up eating? I always said to the pple that i complain to, "How dare he? just cos I want us to go out and have a nice dinner, don't i Deserve it eh"?
“Anyway, the moral of this (long) story, is that when I changed from my "i deserve" mentality to "we deserve" slowly, the tables turned. Now he makes our date plan calender for a month? i lost out on seeing that soft amazing person he is for the first 2years cos I was always ready to fire, after all he Shld have read the manual before marriage? #ideservementalityistherootofallevil?#veryrandombutthoughttoshare #haveagreatweekendlovers?"
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