Domestic Violence 'I did not cut my wife's ear' - Accused husband

In the past few days, the social media has been agog over the story of a man, Nonso Paul Nzedebe, who allegedly battered his wife, Nwogo, and used a plier to cut off her ear.

With many Nigerians roundly condemning the man and calling all sorts of names, Nzedebe, a lawyer, has come out with own side of the story, claiming that he did not commit the act he is being accused of.

In a press statement he released earlier today, Nzedebe said his iwfe was even the one that attacked him with a knife when he tried to stop her from beating their housemaid to death.

He also stated that she injured herself with a plier their security man used to try and repair the door she destroyed during the fight.

  


Read his own side of the story:

"It is with uttermost dismay, disgust ‎and shock, when I learnt of the details of the allegation that I cut off my wife's ear.

Please be patient to hear my side of the story.

The occasion leading up to the event, that led to the injury sustained by my wife, was a fight between my wife and the housemaid.

I am completely stunned that somebody would turn around and tell the whole world that I did this to my wife.

I am a victim of circumstances in this incident as I only came to separate a fight at about 11:30pm between my wife and the maid.

On the 18th ‎November, 2015, late at night while I was asleep, I suddenly heard a loud noise thinking it was armed robbers, that came to attack the compound only to wake up and find out that it was my wife that was beating the maid to stupor.

I was barely naked with wrapper when I rushed to restrain her from further beating up the maid. She turned around to tell me that I am a useless man and the next thing I heard was a slap from her. I was dazed and fell on the wall. I struggled to get my boxer while she continued to attack me.

She destroyed the window blinds and my computer before the neighbours rushed in. She went for the kitchen knife and started threatening to kill me. She finally left the compound, unknowingly to me and the gate man as we were about repairing the door so that we can put it in proper condition for the night, she came from nowhere to rain deadly blows on my face.

The neighbours held me and she was kicking and hitting me on the face so I struggled to defend my eyes. It was in the heat of the ensuing altercation that the plier with the gate man accidentally hit on her ear. Immediately she turned around and said that she has finally gotten me and that is the end of my life and that they should snap her. She was taken to the hospital and the ear was stitched back immediately.

The altercation which ensued was between her and the house maid but the issue of cutting her ears was totally an accident as a result of me trying to restrain my wife from fighting the maid.

I want ‎the public to know the both sides of a story before ever coming to a conclusion and Judgment.

Thank you

Chukwunonso Paul Nzedebe, Esq. *LL.B (UNIBEN) B.L*"

It Feels Like Love — But Is It?

Sometimes it feels impossible to find someone who's right for you — and who thinks you're right for him or her! So when it happens, you're usually so psyched that you don't even mind when your little brother finishes all the ice cream or your English teacher chooses the one day when you didn't do your reading to give you a pop quiz.

It's totally normal to look at the world through rose-colored glasses in the early stages of a relationship. But for some people, those rose-colored glasses turn into blinders that keep them from seeing that a relationship isn't as healthy as it should be.

What Makes a Healthy Relationship?
Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well. Not sure if that's the case? Take a step back from the dizzying sensation of being swept off your feet and think about whether your relationship has these seven qualities:

• Mutual respect. Does he or she get how cool you are and why? (Watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you're acting like someone you're not!) The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are — for your great sense of humor, your love of reality TV, etc. Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands — and would never challenge — the other person's boundaries.

• Trust. You're talking with a guy from French class and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool or keep walking because he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes — jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.

• Honesty. This one goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your girlfriend in a major lie? Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night but it turned out she was at the movies with her friends? The next time she says she has to work, you'll have a lot more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky ground.

Support. It's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents are getting divorced and to celebrate with you when you get the lead in a play.

• Fairness/equality. You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.

• Separate identities. In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.

• Good communication. You've probably heard lots of stuff about how men and women don't seem to speak the same language. We all know how many different meanings the little phrase "no, nothing's wrong" can have, depending on who's saying it! But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it.

How to make a kiss memorable -- and avoid kissing mistakes.

Whether it's your first kiss or your thousandth, whether it’s with someone new or with your longtime partner, kissing leaves an impression -- one that lingers long after your lips have disengaged.

And, experts say, kissing plays an important role in relationships. "It fosters romantic compatibility," says Michael Christian, author of The Art of Kissing (published under the pen name William Cane). "The more that people kiss, the more they're able to communicate on a romantic level."

Speak Up

Many couples hesitate to talk about kissing out of embarrassment, Christian says. But if your first kiss -- or any of the many that follow -- isn't what you're hoping for, talk about it.

Don't be shy about telling your partner what you like or asking what your partner prefers, Christian says. Just don't do it while you're kissing so your partner doesn't take it as a rebuke.

Men's and Women's Kissing Mistakes

Most of us have clear preferences -- turn-ons and pet peeves -- when it comes to kissing styles.

Christian says men's biggest mistake is that they're too aggressive with their tongues. And men claim that women don't open their mouths wide enough.

For both sexes, the No. 1 kissing complaint is lack of variety, Christian says. He recommends kissing the different parts of your partner's face and paying special attention to the ears and neck. He suggests biting softly on the lower lip and nibbling gently on the earlobe.

Make It Memorable

Kirkland Desmond, a software engineer in Tampa, Fla., vividly recalls his first kiss with his wife a decade ago. They were sitting on the couch in her dad's living room, and as he leaned over to kiss her, he lost his balance and fell off the couch, pulling her down with him.

"I was so nervous because she was completely out of my league," he says. "So our first kiss happened while we were laughing, and 10 years and three beautiful children later, we're still laughing and kissing every chance we get."


Two keys to a memorable kiss are pleasing your partner and pleasing yourself.

My Boyfriend Made Me Kidnap 4 year old Boy, He Wanted to Pay My Bride Price - Suspect

                             

One of the four suspected kidnappers of a four-year-old-boy, Steve Kanu, in Abeokuta has confessed that she regretted her action. But that it was her boyfriend, who wanted to travel abroad and wanted to pay her bride price, that put pressure on her to commit the crime.”

Young Steve was kidnapped at his parents’ home at Laderin Estate, Abeokuta, on Monday, November 2, 2015. He was, however, rescued alive last Friday by the men of the Ogun State Police Command, who swooped on the kidnappers at Nsukka, Enugu State, and rescued the boy alive. A ransom of N1m was paid to the kidnappers before he was rescued.

Dr. and Mrs. Mucipay Kanu, beamed with smile when they appeared with their son at the state police
command headquarters, Eleweran, on Monday.

The suspects arrested for the crime were also paraded by the Commissioner of Police, Abdulmajid Ali.

The suspects are Kenechukwu Amoke (21), Anayo Amoke (35), Oluchi Asadu (20) and Maureen Uchenna (25).

Maureen, who was a staff nurse in Dr. Mucipay Kanu’s hospital in Abeokuta for over three years before she resigned in July this year, was said to have planned the abduction of Steve with her boyfriend, Obinna Amoke, who is currently on the run.

The nurse said she regretted being part of the kidnapping.

She said:

“I learnt that Doctor paid N1m ransom to one of our members in Abeokuta before the police detectives arrested us in Enugu.
“I regretted my action, but it was my boyfriend, who wanted to travel abroad and wanted to pay my bride price, that put pressure on me to commit this crime.”

The commissioner, while parading the suspected kidnappers, said the manhunt for Obinna was on, adding that he would be arrested.

“The boy was kept for eight days in Anayo Amoke’s residence in Isale Ibefun in Abeokuta, before he was moved to Nsukka, where they kept him in Oluchi Asadu’s house,” the CP said.

He said he would liase with the Governor of Enugu State, Ifeanyi Ugwuanyi, to ensure that Obinna’s house in the village was demolished.

Understanding the Dangers and Causes of Hypertension

By James M. Rippe

Hypertension isn't called a killer for nothing. High blood pressure is a significant risk factor for developing coronary artery disease (CAD), the leading cause of death in the United States, and it's considered a significant risk for stroke, heart failure, and kidney failure. Anyone with poorly treated hypertension at least doubles his or her risk of developing all of these conditions. And remember, the higher the blood pressure, the higher the danger.

Thus, even individuals who have no symptoms when initially diagnosed with hypertension need to work hard to control blood pressure to prevent these potentially devastating complications. When you're already diagnosed with heart disease and hypertension, then controlling your blood pressure within recommended levels is perhaps the most important step you can take toward preventing or slowing the progress of your heart disease.

Determining the causes of hypertension

In the vast majority (more than 90 percent) of people with high blood pressure, physicians aren't able to determine its exact cause. In medical terms, this condition is known as idiopathic hypertension. That's not to say that physicians are idiots, but that they haven't yet figured out the precise mechanisms, functions, or agents that cause hypertension. Hypertension of an undetermined cause also is termed essential high blood pressure. In the same way that idiopathic doesn't mean that doctors are idiots, neither does essential mean that having hypertension is essential. Quite the contrary! Treating it is what is essential! Look at some of the factors that appear to contribute to hypertension.

• Salt intake: Among the theories about what causes essential high blood pressure, most relate to problems that your kidneys appear to have with handling excess salt. Population studies show that societies in which people consume large amounts of salt (such as the United States) have a correspondingly high incidence of high blood pressure. Similarly, in cultures where salt intake is low, the incidence of high blood pressure is extremely low. Other studies show that for most people with hypertension, restricting salt intake helps lower high blood pressure.

Inherited predisposition: Hypertension also appears to have a genetic component. Some people may be genetically predisposed to have high blood pressure. However, although hypertension runs in some families, these tendencies may actually result as much from shared lifestyles as they do from shared genetic backgrounds. Doctors certainly know that lifestyle factors, such as obesity (and abdominal obesity, in particular), inactivity, cigarette smoking, and high alcohol consumption all are associated with increased risk of hypertension.

• Known conditions that cause it: In approximately 10 percent of the people with hypertension, the specific underlying cause can be discovered. This condition is known as secondary hypertension, meaning it's a secondary result of a separate primary condition. If the underlying condition can be treated and corrected, then secondary hypertension usually is corrected, too. Conditions known to cause secondary high blood pressure include

• Narrowing of the arteries that supply the kidneys

• Other diseases of kidneys

• Abnormalities in the endocrine system, such as overactive adrenal glands

• Transient conditions such as pregnancy for certain women

• Certain medications that can increase the risk of high blood pressure, such as oral contraceptives or estrogen replacement therapy following menopause

If you're diagnosed with high blood pressure, your doctor will explore any of these potential underlying causes for hypertension prior to making the diagnosis.

Checking out other risk factors

Although medical science may not know the exact mechanisms that cause essential hypertension, a number of conditions are strongly associated with increases in high blood pressure. Arresting any one of this gang of probable causes usually leads to lower blood pressure. For many people, controlling these conditions actually returns their blood pressure to normal levels.
Obesity: Hypertension is most clearly associated with obesity (weighing more than 20 percent above your desirable body weight). Obesity contributes to an estimated 40 percent or more of all high blood pressure cases in the United States. Although not everyone who is overweight has high blood pressure, the association remains crystal clear.

Cigarette smoking: Cigarette smoking and the use of other tobacco products increase blood pressure, both in the short term while you're smoking or chewing and in the long term, because components in the smoke or chewing tobacco, such as nicotine, cause your arteries to constrict. Childhood experiments with the nozzle on a garden hose indicate what happens when you force the same volume of liquid through a smaller opening. That higher pressure isn't a happy thing for your arteries.

Alcohol intake: Drinking small to moderate amounts of alcohol (fewer than two beers, two glasses of wine, or one shot of distilled spirits) per day has been shown in a number of studies to reduce mortality from CAD. Higher consumption of alcohol (three or more alcoholic drinks per day), however, clearly is associated with increased blood pressure, not to mention an increased risk of dying from heart disease.

Physical inactivity: People who are physically inactive increase their likelihood of developing high blood pressure. In one large study of more than 16,000 individuals, inactive people were 35 percent more likely to develop hypertension than were active people, regardless of whether they had a family history of high blood pressure or a personal history of being overweight.

5 Warning Signs of Heart Attack

Visit your doctor if you experience any of these warning signs of heart attack:

• Chest pain or discomfort — uncomfortable pressure, fullness, squeezing, or pain in the center of the chest lasting more than a few minutes.

• Pain spreading to the shoulders, neck, or arms.

• Shortness of breath, with or without chest discomfort.

• Chest discomfort with lightheadedness, fainting, sweating, nausea, or shortness of breath.

• Pain in the back and/or jaw, shortness of breath, extreme fatigue, nausea/vomiting, and lightheadedness. Note: These are additional signs of heart attack or more common signs of heart attack in women.

Check Whether You Have Cancer – A New Simple Recipe With Yogurt

Previous screening methods for colorectal cancer included injection of certain molecules, and the new method reject the invasive part using modified bacteria from yogurt.

Scientists from the Institute of Technology of Massachusetts came to a simple method for detecting cancer, which only includes yogurt and urine test.

Professor Sangita Bhatia managed to develop molecules that act as biomarkers in detecting cancerous cells in colorectal cancer. If these molecules are drunk with yogurt, they find their way to the cancer cells, where enzymes are broken down to small particles that are ejected from the body through urine.

All you need is a small piece of paper to collect these particles.

Previous screening methods for colorectal cancer included injection of these molecules, and the new method of reject the invasive part using modified bacteria from yogurt.

Tests were carried out in mice, while in clinical trials in humans; this method would prove extremely simple and cheap in detecting the evil disease.


According to the American Association Against Cancer (ACS), only 40% of people with colorectal cancer have early diagnosis of the disease, due to insufficient examination.

Why Men Break Up With You Around the Holidays

He's Been Putting it Off

Things have been slowly going sour for a while now, and he's been meaning to end the relationship. There just hasn't been the right time (or so he thinks). But holidays have a way of magnifying what's already on the mind, so all of the little reasons that came up about why he might end it suddenly seem quite big. Thus, there's no time like the present (even though it's a horrible present to give).

He Doesn't Want You to Meet His Parents You start talking about the holidays and whether you should go to your respective homes, his, or yours. He may not have ever thought about you meeting his folks before but now it's not an "if" sort of question, it's a "when." Even if you go your respective ways this holiday, he knows the next time his mom comes to town to visit he won't be able to avoid you two meeting.

Meeting one another's parents makes a relationship very real. It's one thing to date someone for a few months, but once they've met your dad you're in for a lifetime of "How's that girl I met that holiday all those years ago?" Instead of risking a break-up post-family get-together he makes the judgment call that you won't stand the sands of time and it would be better for you not to meet his parents at all.

He Doesn't Want You to Meet his Friends One of the funnest parts of the holiday season is all the parties. Parties your friends throw, the office holiday party where his boss gets drunk and sings karaoke, and on and on. If you two have been dating a few months it would be weird for him to go to a bunch of parties and not invite you. One or two he might get away with, but a whole season of parties? No way can he pull that off.

In the same vein of him not wanting you to meet his parents, he may chose to end things around the holiday season so he doesn't have to bring you to all the parties where you would be introduced to his friends and co-workers. That way, Sam from Accounting isn't asking about you six months from now and he won't have to have the awkward "I broke up with the woman I brought to the holiday party" talk.

He Doesn't Want To Get You a Gift This is a pretty selfish reason, in the midst of a selfish list: he doesn't want to spend the money or sentiment on getting you a holiday present. A good guy, a guy who really wants to be with his girlfriend, starts thinking about a holiday gift at least a month in advance. The guy who is already contemplating a break-up may have realized that he will need to spend some money and that could deter him from putting off the inevitable.

More likely he doesn't want to muster the energy on a sentiment that isn't real. A thoughtful gift implies that you're always on his mind and he cares deeply for you. If that's not the case for him it will be highlighted during gift-giving season.

He Wants A New Year with a New Girl

The final holiday during this season is one of my personal favorites: New Year's Eve. But he may not want to ring in the new year with someone he doesn't want to date that year. Don't be surprised if he takes the changing of the calendar as a chance to start fresh by changing his relationship status.

What If I Don't Regret Having S*x?

Q. Recently I had sex with my boyfriend of over a year. I didn't regret anything because we are so much in love, we had talked about what would happen if anything went wrong, and we're still together. But I can't stop thinking about this: I know in God's eyes sex is meant only for marriage. Since I'm not married, does that mean I'm going to hell? Does God still consider me one of his children, even though I've had sex before marriage?

A. First things first: In God's eyes, sin is sin. Lying to your parents, being mean to your brother, cheating on a math test, they're all just as troubling to God as having sex before you're married. The Apostle Paul wrote, "Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God" (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, NIV). That's a pretty long list, and while a few of those sins are sexual, most of them aren't. Liars, cheaters, gossipers and greedy people are in just as much trouble as those who sin through sex. We're all guilty of these things in some way.

But the amazing, astonishing, extraordinary thing about God is that he washes away our sins. Because of Jesus, we who follow Christ are no longer in danger of spending eternity apart from God. After Paul lists all those sins, he says, "But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God" (1 Corinthians 6:11, NIV). Paul is telling us that because of Jesus' sacrifice, sin no longer destroys us. We are indeed God's children and there is nothing, not a single thing, we can do to change that.

That said, I'm very concerned that you don't regret having sex with your boyfriend. I'm not saying you need to bury yourself under a blanket of guilt and shame. Even so, I do think that until you recognize the problem with having sex outside of marriage, you're going to keep doing it, not just in this relationship, but in future relationships as well.

Sex creates a powerful connection between two people. And that connection will never be completely broken, even if the relationship ends. You will always carry the memories of having sex with your boyfriend. Ten years from now, you might not remember the details, but you'll remember the emotions, the intimacy, the strength of the feelings you had. And all of that is going to mess with your relationship with your future husband. And that's very regrettable, even though you may not feel any regret.

That leads me to another important point: One of the ways sin affects us is that it sometimes causes our feelings to push us away from what God wants for us. (Jeremiah 17:9 talks about how our hearts can mislead us.) That's why, when our feelings contradict the Bible, we have to trust the Bible. We have to pray that God will bring our very real, very powerful feelings in line with his truth, so that we'll rejoice at good things and learn to hate our sin.

God's grace and forgiveness are gifts that come with no strings attached. But if we've really accepted those gifts, we respond by starting to order our lives around God. That means following God's commands and living in a way that honors the love he has given us. Because you are a child of God, you need to stop having sex with your boyfriend and be the person God wants you to be, a person of honesty, goodness, purity and self-control.

Married Men, Please Stop Doing These Things To Your Wife

The Married Bachelor: The change of marriage shouldn't affect just the lady; she changes her name to yours, you pretty much get an indoor restaurant and free "bad things" whenever you like... it's not right for a man to get married and still wants all the perks of bachelorhood, I feel when we get married we are both changed, you cannot act like it is only your spouse that has to be responsible while you pretty much ball alone...

There are some things some married men do that is kinda wrong and to me it is bachelor's behaviour.

How To Spot A Married Bachelor

Alone with my thought: He always wants to be alone, he wants to have his own time, all the time. He may provide school fees and a lot of other stuff but doesn't want to hear the noise, doesn't want to get a bit messy and runs away from every chance to bond with the family.

Iya Basirat Character: I cannot wrap my head around men that cannot eat one soup twice, ha! I love cooking but that is tough, everyday new soup? I had a friend that once her husband is in town she is not as excited, there was a day she ran quickly to choir practice before the guy got home, the guy don't only want new food everyday, he wants her to cook it fresh. For Instance, if he is coming now, the food should be almost ready, don't cook it down and drop in the fridge and no, tomorrow there should to be a new soup or food, no food sleeps overnight and she has to buy the ingredient fresh, I was stunned!

I asked myself if this is not witchcraft, what is it? Was it something the girl did while they were dating that he is paying her for? When he is offshore he eats anything o.

Dear married bachelor if you cannot eat soup that stay in the fridge or freezer then you would need to find a buka around the corner, afterall they cook daily.

Don't touch my phone: I hear some ladies say, 'it's his phone, he doesn't allow me touch it, let me allow him have his privacy....' The phone is not private to nobody, it is his phone doesn't mean you cannot snoop look around, it is not that every time you pick it and go 'let me see what you have been up to' but you should be able to look through his phone, share in some of his gist, laugh at jokes he made with his friends, what I mean is that you should be able to hold his phone and he doesn't go into a panic attack or it result in a big fight.

Friends first, family later: There are some men when you hear what friends have to say about them then you the wife would go "abeg is that my husband" you hear how he was there for his friends and he even extends it to their families, things like "your husband is so nice when I was out of town he helped my wife with the school run by taking our kids everyday to school on his way to work, he picked me from the airport, etc" then you ask yourself is that my husband knowing that for him to do you a favour, he cannot! Chai! When they talk about our husbands outside may we know it is them. Family first!

Hanging out with the boys: I don't have anything against a guy having a guy time here and there but when it becomes guys over family, then there is a problem. "Oh hanging out with the guys", "I want to go hang with my guys", "It my guy's birthday", "it my guy's sisters wedding", "just me and the boys", why can't our wife see your boys na and a married man should enjoy his wife and family more than his guys... I know someone whose husband never goes out with her even to weddings, they have one car and if she insist on going out with him, he must find an excuse or leave the car with her and use a taxi or even a bike. She is pretty and looks good so that is not the problem, it is bachelors behaviour, he doesn't want the burden of her coming along with the kids, he just wants to be free from all of them, I heard he travelled to London recently, though they all got visa, he said he would go check out the place first. Na wa..!

Going out and Coming anytime: As a bachelor you did not owe anything to nobody but when you are married and you want to go out, tell your spouse where you are going to and when she should expect you back. I was at a friend's place one day and she had a visitor, when the visitor was talking about her husband, she did not seem to know when he would come back or where he was, she ended up saying, 'I normally don't wait for him, I just drop the key where he can find it and go and sleep'. But why? Why would you act like this men? Imagine you call your husband and you ask where are you, some would say "somewhere, around the corner, hanging with my guy" when are you coming and they go "I don't know na, don't wait up o'.... It is all bachelors behaviour and bad manners for marriage.

Hiding assets and sharing liabilities: Some men would not tell their wives their assets, they will not say their salary they kind of feel it is theirs not hers but the truth in marriage is that there is no mine , it is always ours but when they get into trouble the first person they call is their wife, and start asking for advice and seeking prayers.

Some men would rather take advice from friends than their wife... very dangerous, no one has got your back like your wife. Dear men, you can do better, she is your wife!


Source: Stella's Blog

Love Relationship Issues

Relationships are an essential part of life. From the day your are born and throughout life, you form relationships with your family, friends, and significant others. It is important to maintain healthy relationships through open communication and respect for the other person.

In a healthy love relationship, each partner enjoys both safety and passion. Shared values, goals, and lifestyle preferences are the core of the relationship. Sharing these things creates a sense of mutual respect. Trust and security are also keys to a healthy relationship.

How to Begin a Healthy Relationship:

The first step in initiating a relationship is to find out what you want from the relationship. Love, happiness, respect, commitment, and fulfillment may all be possibilities of what you need and want from a relationship.

• Know what you want.
• Use effective communication skills.
• Be aware of how unresolved childhood and family issues can affect your role in a relationship.
• Work through conflict; do not become discouraged by it.
• Make agreements about your relationship. You should agree to:
• Be honest with one another.
• Discuss your feelings openly; do not hide them.
• Talk openly about sex if it becomes an issue.
• Confront any issues that are bothering you right away.
• You should also make agreements on any other issues that you feel are important.

Vital Components for Maintaining a Healthy Relationship:

• Communication. Honest communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Communication involves sharing your thoughts, opinions, and emotions honestly and openly with your partner.
• Expectations. You expect certain things of your partner; in turn your partner has certain expectations of you. The key to expectations is making them realistic. When expectations are realistic, they are more likely to be met leaving both partners satisfied and happy.

• Gratification. There are two types of gratification--physical (safety, sensual, and sexual) and emotional (love, caring, and affection). In a healthy relationship, both partners are honest about what their needs are, and both partners are willing and able to meet the other partner's needs on a long-term basis.
• Influence. Influence deals with who leads and is in control. Healthy relationships thrive on each partner's ability to work together and compromise when conflicts arise. Neither partner feels the need to dominate; instead, each person supports the other's strengths and knows that the conflict will be resolved to meet the needs of both people.
• Trust. Rational trust is supported by the fact that your partner is trustworthy and you feel confident and safe with his or her honesty, character, ability, and strength. To develop this trust you must communicate openly about who you are and what is important to you. As the relationship progresses so should the trust between you and your partner.

• Boundaries and Sociability. Each partner has a need to be autonomous and keep a sense of self otherwise he or she will become consumed by the relationship. Boundaries establish where one person begins and the other person ends. Me, you, and us need to be defined as separate entities. This also holds true for the social aspect of building relationships and making friends. There need to be boundaries for your friends, my friends, and our friends, to create a balanced social network.

Stages of a Relationship*:

Every relationship goes through an endless cycle of stages that either strengthen or end the relationship.

• Attraction. You are attracted to a person for some reason and want to know more about them.
• The "first date." This stage involves asking that person to a movie, out for coffee, or a lunch date. This step takes the most courage and can be the most rewarding.
• The "testing" stage. During this stage the two of you will spend a lot of time together and begin disclosing more personal information about yourselves to each other. This stage is a test because it determines whether you progress to the next level, decide to remain friends, or end the relationship completely.
• Conflict. Conflict is a constant part of life and it is also a major part of relationships. Conflict is another test of the relationship. It can end in one of two ways.

• If the two of you overcome the conflict, it strengthens the relationship and brings you closer together. You now realize that you can work through tough times and you become more trusting of the other person. Or.

The conflict does not get resolved, and the relationship reaches a plateau or ends completely.

This cycle is valid for every relationship whether it is with a friend, family member, teacher, or love interest. Each stage is repeated and the relationship is continually tested. If a positive outcome is reached, the relationship is continually strengthened by each conflict.

A relationship should leave you and your partner with feelings of contentment, self-worth, and fulfillment. If this is not the case, you and your partner should seek help through counseling or therapy in order to sort through the conflicts before they become irreparable.

A healthy relationship requires constant work and nurturing. Like a plant, if it is not constantly looked after, it will die. Relationships take time, energy, and effort, but in the end the benefits of a successful relationship outweighs the costs.

(UCC)

My Fiancee Asked Me To Sleep With His Friend Then Accused Me Of Infidelity

Tayo had just returned from the States when we met at Quilox, he was hanging out with his boys and I was there with my friends. We came in some sort of entourage, everyone with their man, but I came alone, I was a loner.


Our eyes had met more than once in a few minutes and I felt I could read through his soul already. To me he passed for that type of guy who had a very calm disposition on the outside, but had a tiger within.

He finally walked up to me and true to my predictions he was all and more that I expected. Gently he introduced himself, politely he asked me to a dance.

On the dance floor he took of the cloak of innocence and I had the most steamy dance of my entirely boring life. The music faded but not the kindled fondness for eachother.

That was how it all began, from a dance to some crazy romance. I had fallen for the devil, I knew it but thought myself too apprehensive.

Tee as he was fondly called by his friends, was very adventurous. He knew alot and was ever eager to explore everything, I found his spontaneity very attractive.

However, three months down the line, I began to notice some withdrawal in Tee’s behaviour towards me. At first I thought it was just a phase that will wear off quickly, but that was not the case.

I tried everything possible to see that things got back to normal, but the more I tried he seemed to draw away, for the first time in our brief relationship, I saw Tee literally crawl back into his shell.

Luckily one night, I had been stuck in traffic on the Island and would not be able to make it back to the estate where I stay in Isolo. So I found my way to Yaba where Tayo was living.

That night he was all uptight, wasn’t the prank master as usually, there was practically no life in him. It felt like I was an outcast and so I was desperate to know what the problem was.

He initially did not want to say anything, then soon after much persuasion, he shocked me.

Tee talked about how boring we had become, how much a routine our life was and how anyone who watched closely could tell what we will be doing at a particular time or where next we would be headed.

I was confused, it all didn’t make sense to me but what could I have done. I couldn’t sleep that night, I was certain that though he did not say it, I was the boring one. Perhaps he wanted out, but I wasn’t ready to put out the flame of his passion.

So I began to loosen myself, I did things I will not ordinarily had done. We would go by Eleko beach and within one of its raffia hut, we would smoke some weed and make out after.

I was not certain of the strange stuffs I had started doing but I would rather do them than loose Tee. Taking things an extra notch, brought him back to me gradually.

But like they say, one compromise leads to another, till you find yourself at the edge of a cliff. This was my case.

Just few weeks to the rejuvenation of our relationship, Tee and I went to his friend’s house in Lekki.

His friend (Boye) was one of those who was with him the day we met. Of all his friends, Boye seemed to be Tee’s best friend.

Boye had his girlfriend over too, we spent the night drinking and playing games.

Somewhere deep into the night, we started to talk about relationships and sexuality, Boye and his girl said they were very open sexually.

We talked loud unaware of our voices echoing into the darkness that had enveloped the perfectly preened neighborhood.

Tee decided we would stay over, having had too much to drink for the night. It was quite unlike him, he would have made us turbo in his Benz, just for the fun of drunk-driving.

The room went quite for a while, Tee’s legs accidentally knocked off the empty bottles of Hennessy laying at the foot of the centre-table.

I was jolted by the sound, having drifted into some brief sleep, on opening my eyes again, Boye was making out with his lady.

Tee looked really tipsy but made for my lips, perhaps turned on by Boye’s rather loud make-out section.

I kissed him but gestured for us to head for Boye’s spare room, he hesitated and I reluctantly continued with the kissing.

A few minutes later we were engrossed so much that we didn’t notice Boye and his girlfriend staring at us, it was the lady’s cackling that gave them away.

Just then, Boye said he and his lady had decided to do something very exiting, I was wondering what they had decided, it was the lady who let the cat out.

She said “we have decided to trade partners, one night only”.

I thought it some nasty joke, but the grin on Tee’s face gave me concern, the thought seem to have excited him.

Surprisingly, Tee agreed to the rather expensive joke. He gave it a nod and the before I knew it Boye’s girl was on my man’s lap.

She kissed him in a manner I felt she will steal him with her tongue. I was jealous but played along.

Boye motioned towards me, he was in no way my spec, but again what would I have done?

I tried to enjoy myself, seeing that Tee seemed to be having a really hot session. I didn’t bother for any foreplay, I just pulled Boye unto myself and we had sex.

All the time I was looking over to see Tee and this crazy girl who should be doing her thing with Boye, it was cruel torture.

She seemed to be having more fun with Tee than she did with Boye. Thirty minutes later and they still were on foreplay.

Boye urged me to join him in the room, I was hesitant but gave in to his request just to please my man.

We had some more sex, but I wasn’t enjoying it. I guess the influence of the drink was all that made me bear the disgust.

After a while, Tee walked in just as Boye was getting off me, he said it was time to leave.

On the way he seemed a little off-key, he told me he did not go all the way with Boye’s girlfriend. He said he did not feel it was right, just then I began to feel guilty.

One week after the shady deal at Boye’s place, Tayo broke up with me. He said he could not believe that I would go all the way with his best friend.

He said what I and Boye did was shameful and as such was a dent on his pride, he claimed his heart was broken.

I tried to tell him that I did it to please him, but he said it was a very foolish thing to do, he accused me of infidelity.

I am certain I would not have done such an irrational thing but for the alcohol and the drive to satisfy Tees thirst for adventure.

Tee says we must call it quits, I say we are on recess. I need my man back, help me convince him that I have never and will never cheat on him or do anything to hurt his ego.

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PHOTOS: Nurse narrates moment he unknowingly tried to save Paris suicide bomber

     

A nurse who gave CPR to a wounded man sprawled in the wreckage of a bombed cafe has spoken of his horror when he realised the patient he was trying to save was a suicide bomber.
David, 46, was among the brave healthcare professionals who rushed to the centre of Paris last week when the terrorists opened fire on the audience at the Bataclan theatre and detonated bombs at the Stade de France.
He said

He was unconscious, he had nothing special, but I noticed that on the side of his body there was an enormous hole. A large hole on his side. But there, again, I don't think at all that it was a suicide bomber.At that moment, for me it's a client like others who suffered from a gas blast and who must have hurt himself on something. But his wound was huge."

It was only when he took the man's T-shirt off to better try and resuscitate him that he noticed the wires snaking around his body.
"I put him on the ground, I start performing a CPR, the other guy who was with me takes over from me. And at that point we had just unbuttoned the jacket, that's all, we had kept his T-shirt on, it was not really thick

    
One of the now dead Paris attckers

When I was performing the CPR I did not feel anything. And at some point, the guy performing the resuscitation with me tells me 'maybe we should remove the T-shirt, it's better.' I tell him 'yes, you are right'.And when I ripped his T-shirt I saw some wires."On the ground there was blood, and I noticed the first bolts on the ground. Then I understood immediately. I told myself, 'it's an explosion (that made the wound in his side), it's a suicide bomber' and I knew it was him. And at that precise moment when I realised what he was, the emergency services arrived."

                           
The bewildered nurse said:

"I knew, I knew that he was dead but I told myself: "if there is a chance, why not? But without thinking it was him I that had done.
"At the moment I realised it was a suicide bomber, the emergency services and I did not have to deal with him anymore. I tried to assess what the damage was. It was when I told to the fireman that had recognised me "this man has lots of wires on him", he screamed, he said: "Everyone get away, we evacuate everyone. And then we all went outside."

If it was not for the fact that the bomb was damaged and had not exploded properly, David's kind actions could have cost him his life.

He said:

"I am told (the next day), that yes he was the suicide bomber, he did blow himself up. he told me I was very lucky as they said on TV that his bomb did not explode like it should have done. Otherwise he would have caused much more damage."It was Sunday afternoon that I realised that by installing him on the ground, by performing a CPR - I performed some pretty rough actions - I could have got killed too. Completely. I think about it, I still think about it."

UK Mirror

The Ravaging Cancer Scourge

It is still not the best of times for Nigerian women, as over 40 of them die from breast cancer in the country daily. Martins Ifijeh writes on the anguish of breast cancer patients and what the government, stakeholders and citizens must do to stem the ravaging scourge

Adeolu squeezed herself into the long chair where her husband sat, with her head resting on his laps as she gazed into the emptiness of the expanded room. Her mien depicts so much hollowness like someone hoping the rain falls soon. Truly, she hasn’t experienced much rain and sunshine in recent times. The happiness of the entire family has lost steam. All they think of now is extinguishing her dark cloud and bring back the watercolor sky.

“She first noticed a lump on her left breast two year after we got married, “ her husband muttered, “then she started experiencing pain, then the breast began to swell, and then …here we are; she is no longer able to do anything because cancer has taken over the entire breast and related parts of her body. All we do now is hope her medications improve her health, while God restores her body back.

As though eager to tell her sorry tales herself, Adeolu, who could barely speak aloud, garnered strength and sat up and relayed her story amid pain which were coming in trickles, mostly at the left side of her body.

“In 2013, when I noticed a small dot on my breast, it didn’t occur to me it was going to snowball into something of this nature. At that point, I didn’t give it much thought, until it began to increase in size, say like the size of a bean seed, then it started to give me cause for worry.”

Unknown to her, the inability to decisively tackle the small dot on her breast was her biggest undoing. The mad cells didn’t wait for her to keep observing how it would disappear on its own. Rather, it replicated, spread and had its footings strongly embedded in the tissues of her breast.

In no time, the breast’s skin began to take the look of an orange, with little fine dimples scattered around it, the left breast became heavier and unusually bigger. Unfortunately, this was when she and her husband decided to visit the hospital for checkup. But it was too late to destroy the cancer cells. She was told what she had, was now beyond lumpectomy; the lump couldn’t be removed anymore. Radical mastectomy had to be done on her.

Adeolu and her husband were shocked. They thought cancer was an illness they only read about on paper or hear people talk about. They thought it was a far away disease that has its particular target population, a population very distant from their own. But they were wrong, cancer was already within their midst. It knows no tribe, religion, financial, academic and spiritual status. It’s a roaring lion seeking only one thing – to destroy. But experts have said prevention and early detection were, key to overpowering the big monster.

But Like many Nigerians who would rather show how much religious they are by first spending lots of time seeking miracles against their ill health, which ordinarily should be tackled promptly, (in addition to the prayers), Adeolu and her husband didn’t betray that ‘Nigerianness’ at all. They spent months praying and hoping it would disappear and never come back. But the mad cells continued to grow. They were deaf to reasoning, a characteristic doctors and researchers have continuously sort to conquer.

And then the verdict came from the doctor, “he told me we would have to perform the radical mastectomy now or that might be the least of my problem in the coming months,” explained Adeolu. Eventually, around June 2014, the breast was cut off, but not before she and her husband spent so much on various awkward treatments, as well as spiritual helps.

“And then I started sessions of chemotherapy which gulped everything we had. I couldn’t continue because everyone around us had given their quota to my recovery. There was no where I could run to for help. And then I decided to stop the remaining sessions pending when I would be able to get the fund for it,” she noted.

She explained that by the time she was able to raise some money, the cancer cells, like a plague of locust, had spread to her internal organs. “I was told by my doctor that the cancer was currently on stage four. He said what I really need now is radiotherapy to slow down the cells, as surgery will be impossible at this point, even though I have fully resumed my chemotherapy session,” she explained.

But in a country where only one radiotherapy machine works and there are over two million cancer patients, with most of them clamouring to use the machine, there may only be a glimmer of hope for the several people on the long queue waiting to access radiotherapy treatment in the country with a major chunk of them even unable to afford the financial implication of radiotherapy treatment.

Adeolu, is one among several Nigerians going through the pain of breast cancer with treatments hampered by late presentation of cases, high cost of treatment and lack of treatment facilities, including radiotherapy machines, as well as oncology personnel.

However, several thousands of Nigerians are dying from the scourge yearly with experts suggesting that over 40 Nigerian women die from breast cancer scourge every day in a country that prides itself as the giant of Africa.

In an interview with THISDAY, a medical expert, Dr. Rufus Arebamen, said it was unfortunate that most people do not present their cases on time to the hospital, as it was easier to treat cancer cases when at their early stage, adding that the high number of deaths occasioned by the scourge in the country was chiefly due to late presentation.

“It is easier to treat cancer at the very early stage than when it has spread within the body. Most times when presentation is done late, there is really little or nothing a doctor can do. At the moment there is no cure for it, so the best that can happen is for people to cautiously prevent it, and in cases where they are noticed, diagnosis and treatment should be done on time. “This is why we are still having most breast cancer patients dying because by the time they come to the hospital, the lump, which ordinarily would have been removed and the patient will be fine, would then not be able to be removed because the cancer cells have spread to the mass of the affected breast or even neighboring tissue,” he said.

He advised that there should be more awareness on the disease, especially on breast, cervical and prostate cancer, which have killed more Nigerians than other types of cancer.

In the same vein, a Consultant, Clinical and Radiation Oncologist, Dr. Omolola Salako, vented her frustration recently while chatting with students of the Health Journalist Academy at the Pan Atlantic University, Lagos. She said as an oncologist, she was no longer enjoying her job because of the high number of deaths of her cancer patients due to their late presentation of cases, adding that cancer is treatable if presentations were made on time, but that rather, the late presentation was making the work uninteresting.

“By the time people present cases to the hospital, you will discover their cancer has reached stage 3 or stage 4. And at these stages, treatment is difficult, even though some percentage of persons still come out alive from it, but the guarantee is higher when people present cases either at the pre cancerous stage, stage 1 or stage 2,” she noted.

She said breast cancer, which has become the number one killer of women in the country was preventable if every Nigerian adhere to self-examination practice and present changes in their breast to the doctor for onward diagnosis and advise.

According to her, Nigerians should stop living in denials that cancer was far from them. “We must recognise that it is not far from us, only that we have to make conscious efforts to protect ourselves against the scourge,”she added.

On government and stakeholder’s response to tackling the scourge, a Professor of Clinical and Radiation Oncologist, Professor Sunday Adeyemi Adewuyi, in a recent cancer summit in Abuja, explained that there were not enough cancer machines in the country, adding that this has in no small measure led to the death of several cancer patients in the country.

He said the recommended number of cancer machines, according to the International Atomic Energy Agency (IAEA) is one machine to 250,000 population, or one machine to 350 to 450 cancer patients, but that Nigeria currently has seven radiotherapy machines which means there is one cancer machine to over 30 million people.

However, among the seven cancer machines in the country, only the one at the Usman Danfodio Teaching Hospital (UDTH), Sokoto is currently working, which means 180 million Nigerians are currently matched to only one machine in an otherwise rich country, that boasts of years of robust oil revenue, wealthy national and international corporate organisations, as well as several wealthy Nigerians with some of them owning oil wells in the country.

According to Adewusi, Nigeria is expected to have 840 cancer machines to match the recommended numbers per the population. South Africa, has 18 radiotherapy machines, which means one machine to 1.3 million citizens, while another fellow African country, Egypt,
has 35 cancer machines, that is one machine to 1.2 million citizens. Japan has 611 cancer machines, with one machine to 150,000 citizens, while China has 453 machines, with one machine to 1.8 million people.

The statistics and comparison, therefore showed that Nigeria was responding to cancer in an abysmally poor and pathetic way.

PHOTO: Alleged Corporate Robbers Who Rob Around Victoria Island/Ikoyi Nabbed

Two brothers are currently being held in a bizarre case of robbery, in which they were said to dress like corporate office workers to rob women at the close of work in Lagos.

The brothers, Ikenna and Chinedu Onukwo, who are 28 and 23 years old respectively, claimed to be students of the North American University in Benin Republic.

According to the Lagos State Commissioner of Police, Mr. Fatai Owoseni, the siblings operated their robbery operations like a family business.

Rick Ross Wants You To Know THIS About His Relationship With Lira Galore

                   

Rick Ross recently responded to a question several fans have been asking; what’s the status of his relationship with Lira Galore.
The Maybach Music head is currently on the promo trail for his “Black Market” album and was interviewed by The Associated Press on a number of topics.

After at first being asked about his dramatic weight loss…

AP: You’ve lost nearly 100 pounds. Are you still being healthy?
Ross: Yes. I’m at my lowest weight right now as we speak. […] I’m right around 275.

Ross then decided to clear up rumors surrounding his relationship with his 22-year-old on-again off-again fiancee.

“I’m happy,” said Ross.
“This is what I’m going to clear up: I’m happy and I’m living. That’s what it is. Rozay is so happy. That’s what life is about, being happy.
That’s it Rozay????

Mind you the two are seemingly back together after posing for coupled up photos on SnapChat and after Lira starred in his “Sorry” video.

Fire in coal mine in China kills 21, leaves 1 missing

A late-night fire at a coal mine killed 21 people and left one missing in the northeastern Chinese province of Heilongjiang, local authorities and state media said Saturday.

The fire at the Xinghua mine in the city of Jixi was brought under control on Saturday, and 21 bodies were recovered at the mine, owned by the Heilongjiang Longmay Mining Holding Group, the official Xinhua News Agency said.


The provincial work safety administration confirmed the incident and the death toll on Saturday.

A work safety employee who only gave his family name of Xing, as is customary with low-ranking Chinese bureaucrats, said rescuers were searching for the missing person.

Xinhua said 38 miners were working underground when an angle belt caught fire on Friday night and that 16 people were pulled out to safety.

Xinhua did not say what caused the fire.

This is the deadliest mine incident since April this year, when a water leak at a coal mine killed 21 people in the northern city of Datong in Shanxi province.

China's mines have long been the world's deadliest, but safety improvements have reduced deaths in recent years.

Last year, 931 people were killed in mine accidents throughout China, drastically down from the year 2002, when nearly 7,000 miners were killed.

Buhari leaves for Iran tomorrow

                                                                     President Muhammadu Buhari

President Muhammadu Buhari would leave Abuja tomorrow for Tehran, Iranian capital to participate in the 3rd Gas Exporting Countries’ Forum, GECF, which opens on Monday.

A statement by the Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, Mr. Femi Adesina yesterday stated that the president is expected to join in the review of strategies to boost production with other world leaders.


Apart from participating in other important meetings, President Buhari would also meet with members of the Nigerian community in Iran.

The statement read thus: “President Buhari and the leaders of Iran, Russia, Qatar, the Netherlands, Venezuela, Oman, Algeria, the United Arab Emirates, Bolivia and other member-countries of the GECF are expected to review the current market outlook on gas and discuss strategies for boosting gas production during their meeting in Tehran.”

“Nigeria and other GECF members currently account for 42 percent of global gas production‎, 70 percent of global gas reserves, 40 percent of pipeline transmission of gas and 65 percent of the global trade in Liquefied Natural Gas.

“President Buhari who is scheduled to hold bilateral talks with other participating Heads of State and Government on the sidelines of the GECF summit, will also meet with Nigerians resident in Iran.

“The President will be accompanied on the trip by the Minister of Foreign Affairs, Mr. Geoffrey Onyeama, the Minister of Power, Works & Housing, Mr. Babatunde Fashola, the Minister of State for Petroleum Resources, Mr. Ibe Kachikwu and the National Security Adviser, Maj.-Gen. Babagana Monguno (rtd.). He is due back in Abuja on Tuesday, November 24, 2015.”

Ohanaeze disowns Nnamdi Kanu, Biafra

The apex Igbo socio–cultural organisation, Ohanaeze Ndigbo, the on Friday disowned the Director of Radio Biafra, Nnamdi Kanu, and his cohorts in their struggle for Biafra agitation.

Addressing reporters in Awka, the Chairman, Forum of State Presidents of Ohanaeze in the seven Igbo –speaking states, Dr. Chris Eluomunoh, said no right thinking person would support what he called the madness of the group .


He said: “You will notice that Ohanaeze has been very silent on the issue of Biafra insurgency, though the youth wing of Ohanaeze has been speaking on it. Ohanaeze, as the Igbo cultural group, cannot support Biafra and we dissociate ourselves from it totally.

“Igbo people have contributed much to the development of Nigeria and we cannot allow some people to jeopardise the lives and efforts of millions of Igbo residing in all parts of Nigeria.

“We believe that anybody who has any issue to settle with the Federal Government should use dialogue and that is why we participated in the last National Conference. No sane Igbo person would want to witness a repeat of the kind of thing that happened during the Civil War.

“(Chief Odumegwu) Ojukwu, who led the Biafra war, returned to Nigeria from exile and contested elections in Nigeria, which showed that he was fully integrated into Nigeria and was a full-fledged Nigerian before he died.”

Eluemunor denied the speculation that politicians of Igbo extraction were supporting the Biafran agitation, adding that their support came mainly from outside the country.

He, however, said that part of the reasons for the agitation was the dearth of infrastructure in Igbo land and pleaded with President Muhammadu Buhari to address the infrastructural decay in the area.

He called on Buhari to declare a state of emergency on the infrastructure problem in the South East by rehabilitating the federal roads that have become death traps due to neglect.

He said doing so would help to correct the imbalances and marginalisation being suffered by the people of the area.

He said, “We know the marginalisation was not caused by him, but we plead that he should look into the problems being complained about by the people of South East and South–South. He has won the election and we in Ohanaeze support him and will work with him for the unity of the country.”

Radio station for women starts test transmission

Nigeria’s first radio station to focus on issues surrounding women only, WFM 91.7, has started its test transmission, a statement by the firm’s management has said.

The niche radio station came into being after the National Broadcasting Commission issued licence to owners of the station, St. Ives Communications, to operate a specialised radio station focused on women and family in Ogun and Lagos states.

The brains behind the gender-sensitive station, who is also the Chief Medical Director of St. Ives Specialist Hospital, Lagos, Dr. Tunde Okewale; and the Managing Director of WFM 91.7, a veteran broadcast journalist, Toun Okewale-Sonaiya, said the women-focused radio station was poised to deliver on its objectives as helping women be the best in the society.

An American radio technology expert, Dean Gay, has described the niche radio station as one of the best in the world in terms of the broadcast equipment installed at the station.

He said, “I’m not sure if WFM has any competitor in the market. They are completely different in all ramifications. It’s not your normal run-off-the-mill radio station. They have unique programming, unique target audience and a defined market.

“It is the very latest in broadcast technology today. From the microphone to transmitters, to consoles, servers, mast, everything you have here are the very latest in radio broadcast technology and they are all of very high quality. They are the most sought-after equipment in radio broadcast industry today.”

The statement added that the station would start full transmission in December 2015.

Photos From The Terrorist Attack On Radisson Blu Hotel In Mali

   

According to reports, the gunmen have taken about 170 people hostage after jihadist gunmen stormed the Radison Blu Hotel in Bamako, Mali.


Hostage situation is under way in the Five star Hotel as reports have it that the gunmen freed some Muslim hostages who could recite portions of the Koran...

See more pictures after the cut

Nigerian Army denies losing 105 officers to Boko Haram

                                                 

              

                                                                            Burati, Chief of Army Staff

Chief of Army staff, Lt. General Tukur Buratai has waved aside reports that about 105 soldiers prosecuting the war against Boko Haram terrorists met their untimely death when they failed to return in a bid to annihilate the terrorists in the North East.


The media had been awashed with news that about 100 Nigerian soldiers were missing after Boko Haram attacks in the epicenter of the battle.

But General Buratai in a telephone conversation with Vanguard said, “It is not true that our soldiers are missing. The soldiers went on a mission for the Nigerian nation and they have since returned and joined their Battalions”.

The confident Chief of Army Staff said that insinuation is a figment of imagination of the authors of the story.

Media reports had indicated that the Army may have lost about 150 of its men to an attack by Boko Haram insurgents in Gudunbali, Borno State.
It was claimed that the terrorists attacked at Gudunbali in Borno State, on Wednesday and as a result the 157 Battalion of the Nigerian Army could not account for at least, 105 soldiers including their commanding officer.

According an online media, the terrorists also captured a T-72 tank as well as several artillery weapons from the unit.
“Gudunbali was attacked this morning and some weapons were captured from the battalion. Two officers and 105 soldiers are still missing”.

The terrorists captured a T-72 tank from the unit and some artillery weapons were also captured. The commanding Officer (CO) of the battalion is yet to be seen but no one has been confirmed dead yet,” the source added.

Another source however said the T-72 tank was recovered after a prolonged fight with Boko Haram insurgents. The gunner and tank commander were injured in the process, he said.

Also reportedly captured by the insurgents were eight vehicles, a truck loaded with 60,000 rounds of AA ammunition and three artillery pieces.
Similarly, soldiers of the Multi-National Joint Task Force (MNJTF) stationed at Baga, Borno State also recently came under attack. The attack occurred in Geringiwa at about four kilometers to the headquarters of MNJTF, PREMIUM TIMES has also been told.

According to a source, the military has been unable to completely clear the insurgents from Baga and nearby towns due to inadequate equipment.
Boko Haram carried out a series of mass killings in Baga between January 3 and January 7, 2015, after the army headquarters there was sacked by the insurgents.

Although the military later liberated the town, soldiers stationed in the area have come under constant attacks from the insurgents.
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The attacks on the military came on the heels of the suicide attacks on Yola and Kano respectively.

How Sweet - Police Make Dinner for Kids After Their Mother is Rushed to Hospital

                

You know what this world needs right now? More people like these guys.
They’re policemen working in the Eindhoven area of the Netherlands.

They attended a family home along with paramedics after reports of a woman in trouble.

Russia signs deal to build Egypt’s first nuclear power plant

                                                Russian President Vladimir Putin

Russian state corporation, Rosatom and the Egyptian government signed a deal on Thursday to build Egypt’s first nuclear power plant in a deal estimated at 20 billion dollars.


“With this signing we have taken the first step to fulfilling Egypt’s dream of peaceful nuclear power,” Egyptian President Abdel-Fattah al-Sissi said at the signing ceremony.

The facility is planned to be built over 12 years in the north-western Egyptian region of El Dabaa and consist of four reactors, each capable of producing 1,200 megawatts of power.

The surveying work for the construction is expected to begin in December and Russia will begin training Egyptian nuclear workers for the facility in 2016.

Previously, Russia helped Iran construct its first civilian nuclear power plant, near the south-western city of Bushehr.

Russia turned over operational control of that plant in 2013 and clinched a deal 2014 to build an additional two reactors at the facility.

End of the road for LAUTECH robbery, rape suspects

                                             •Some of the suspected criminals and recovered goods

When students of Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, Ogbomoso stormed major roads in the city to protest continued robbery attacks on their female hostel and raping the helpless ladies, they did not in their wildest dreams think that the said robbers could be among them.

The attacks attracted reactions from different groups and even the Oyo State House of Assembly. One of the groups,Women Against Rape, Sexual Harassment and Sexual Exploitation (WARSHE) condemned the serial cases of rape, sexual assault and other forms of sexual violence on students of the institution.The group described the lawless and inhuman acts as “brutal, r eckless use of male power and violation of rights of innocents girls.”

In a statement signed by its Programme Officer, Titilope Olanrewaju, the group stated, “It is based on this that WARSHE thereby considers this latest act of the LAUTECH rapists as highly barbaric, inhuman and despicable, particularly in this day and age, when the global community through several international conventions and treaties such as the Convention on the Elimination of all Forms of Discrimination Against Women, is united against sexual violence and other forms of assault against women. It is sad that this is happening now.

“WARSHE, therefore, calls on relevant authorities, particularly the Oyo State Government, the local governments which superintend over Ogbomoso and its environs, and security agencies to rise up to live up to their responsibility and stem the activities of this nefarious group and help secure the lives and dignity of these female students. They also need to stem the dehumanization of the male students who are being forced to rape their colleagues…”

In unison, the women “say No to violation of young women who implicitly trusted the community to protect them when they choose to attend LAUTECH .

Also, in the House of Assembly, lawmaker, Mrs. Bimbo Olawunmi Oladeji who represents Ogbomoso North brought the matter before the House and called on the Legislators to do something urgent about the security situation in Ogbomoso. She said, “There is general insecurity in Ogbomoso. In recent times,there have been cases of armed robbery attacks and harassment of LAUTECH students. I will urge the house to look into the issue.

“Owing to all these comments, the state Police Command recorded a breakthrough as they arrested three suspects who were alleged to have been involved in the ungodly act. While parading the suspects alongside other suspects, the Commissioner of Police, Mr. Leye Oyebade said, “ a 400L male student of the Department of Transport, Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, Ogbomoso who belonged to a notorious criminal gang nicknamed ‘Three Mopols’ was arrested on 3rd November, 2015 in his criminal hideout by the special anti robbery squad in Oyo/Ogbomoso. “

The gang, according to him, was responsible for breaking into students hostels,stealing valuable property and sometimes raping their female colleagues. But through a diligent and intelligence led policing strategy coupled with collaboration of our strategic partners in the institution,one Kayode Oluwaseyi ‘m’ was arrested.

His arrest and subsequent confession led to the arrest of two criminal receivers – Adeyemi Samuel Taiwo and Adeyemi Samson Kehinde who received some of the stolen items. When a search was conducted in the house of Kayode Oluwaseyi, a HP laptop computer belonging to one of his victims and a toy gun used for robbery operations were recovered. Kayode Oluwaseyi also confessed to have burgled several houses and carried out many robbery operations in the Ogbomoso area

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When asked what led him into that shameful act, the suspect confessed that it was true he was involved in the constant raids but tried to exonerate his accomplices saying they were not among the gang but that they always bought the stolen goods from him.Also paraded was another alleged notorious criminal who had been responsible for the spate of robberies in the Ajebamidele/Atogun area, Otu and its environs.

The CP said, “ On 1st October, 2015 at about 9pm, one Ibe Ayando resident of Budo Jagun via Otu was attacked by a three man gang of armed robbers when he was riding his motorcycle along the Ajebamidele/Atogun Road. He was dispossessed of his Bajaj motorcycle by the hoodlums who also inflicted severe machete cuts on him for which he received medical attention. The report prompted the Police to swing into action hunting for the culprits.The arrest of Demo Sabi, the gang leader and his confessional statement led to the arrest of two other members of the gang.

He added further that Police-Public partnership in crime prevention and management yielded fruits when an alleged robber was arrested after robbing his victim, Azeez Saheed of his Haojue Suzuki motorcycle on 5th November,2015.

“The victim was returning from his farm at Abu village via Akinmorin, via Oyo on the fateful day when he was attacked by his assailant who had barricaded the road with logs. Though fatally injured with a broken Coca-Cola bottle, the victim raised an alarm which eventually led to the arrest of the fleeing suspect.

The snatched motorcycle with reg No. QV 853 LUY was later recovered from the suspect. The police also hinted thatfor some time now, a criminal gang had been robbing people of their valuables, causing wanton destruction of property, breaking into shops at markets, maiming innocent people and causing breakdown of law and order at Beere, Mapo and Born Foto areas of Ibadan.

“Through our robust intelligent network and the collaboration of our strategic partners, operatives of the special anti robbery squad, Ibadan, located the criminal hideout of the hoodlums. In a well-coordinated operation that lasted for some hours, four of the robbery suspects were rounded up when planning to carry out one of their deadly operations.

Items allegedly recovered from the suspects include, a toy gun, seven assorted laptops, thirty four assorted phones, one Olympic camera, one LG TV, one LG Plasma TV, three stabilisers, one GOTV decoder, six different Laptop batteries, and the sum of N126,100.